It is beneficial and valuable to take regular time-out of our busy lifestyles for reflection. Reflection allows us an opportunity to evaluate our lives and ourselves. Find a peaceful location that is free from distractions and be still so that you can reflect on yourself and areas of your life. During this reflection time ask yourself some important questions and then wait for your inner-guidance to provide you with the answers. Below are some suggestions. What am I doing in my life that is serving me well and that I need to continue doing? What areas of my life and myself can I improve and how can I improve them? What do I need to let go of so that I can experience more of what I want in my life? What patterns of thoughts and behaviours do I need to change and how am I going to do that? What am I learning and how can I apply my learnings to achieve better results in my life? What specific actions do I need to take in my life to be happier? How can I experience more enjoy...

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How does one describe the feeling of giving birth and then having their life completely change again? It is day 22 of his life and already I can sense a routine beginning to merge, naturally having a 25 month old toddler adds to the mix and you are constantly juggling one day at a time and living so much in the present. Each day is unique and I feel like I am going through the motions. Deep sense of love fills my heart and so grateful for having such a wonderful supportive partner through this wonderful journey. Part of me is in auto-pilot mode of doing what needs to be done and the other part is taking it all in, the newness of it all and the fact that they grow up so quickly, so I am breathing him in. It is a wonderful feeling being responsible for such beautiful creations and knowing what you do and how you feel impacts their mental state.  This sets the tone for the day and I am so fully aware of that. Even today going out in a double pram, having one crying newborn you ...

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During the last 6 days we travelled in a motor-home, you think it was big enough for the 3 of us, as it really sleeps 6. Yet I found myself feeling claustrophobic and battered from sitting in the back seat with our toddler. I had different expectations of our little mini holiday, just the 3 of us before our newest member joins us in less than 2 months time. Visions of relaxing by the campsite, reading, playing with our little one, having lots of naps and long sleeps. Yes I was delusional to say the least. Alexa didn’t like sitting in the toddler seat behind the driver, so I sat next to her, she didn’t like the constant change of scenery and her routine was out of synch.   She was extra clingy and this has been the case before we went away, so this went to the next level being in new surroundings and seeing different things. She cried a lot, and as it turned out, so did I. You get tested when you have children I am just learning this lesson. Sure I am also emotional as I appr...

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Communication can be confusing and often times can lead to misunderstandings, especially if you only communicate via email. Words do not have intonation, like in the spoken tongue. Even if you are specific there is room for interpretation. That is why if you can speak on the phone or in person that gives you the entire picture, as you get a feeling for what the caller is conveying to you. Just the other day one of my clients emailed me; naturally I responded however it would have been better if we spoke about her situation as emailing was just one dimensional in my opinion. I attempted to cover as much as I could yet; if we could clarify on the phone then the response would have been more tailored to her needs. You find examples of vague communication all over the place, this is so you fill in the blanks with your own interpretation and this way the blanket message covers a wider audience. Billboards, slogans and even on television you will find some kind of ambiguity in the...

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Let go so that you can be free like a butterfly. When you let go it allows you the freedom to live the life that you want. You need to let go of things that are keeping you stuck and not allowing you to move forward towards what you desire in your life. So, what are some of the things that you may need to let go of in order for you to be free to live the life that you want. The Past: Don’t allow past experiences to rule the rest of your life. Learn from them and apply the learning to create a better life for you. Living in the past will take energy and focus away from the action you need to take in the present to achieve the results that you want in your future. Fear: Fear stops us from taking action that can improve our life. Rather than focus on the fear of taking action focus on the benefits that taking action will bring into your life. Be driven by the benefits. The Need to Please Everyone: Don’t live your life for everyone else. It is important that you respect and satisfy y...

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You would think that once you have acquired patience that you would possess it always. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. My 16 month old is a master at teaching me about patience and stopping to smell the roses. She is curious and thus will take her time, end of story. Yet according to my astrological chart I possess fire all over, my sun, moon and rising signs are all fire, and so I am used to blazing my way through life’s challenges even if it is done at 70% I just keep on going, who cares about the other 30% I say? Some people have patience in one area in their lives and not much patience in another. Take my life for example; I waited until I was almost 35 years old to meet the love of my life. So that took a l o n g time, and I didn’t settle for second best as I knew he was coming towards me. So granted I had patience. Standing in queues, waiting on hold on the telephone and waiting for my web browser to load up, these things just drive me nuts if I have to wait longer th...

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Passion is such a buzzword right now, so many times I have people come and say to me, if I only knew what my passion was I could change my life and be happy.  It is like they are some big secret, something that is hidden from them that if they could only see everything would be great. Having specifically worked with passions for a while now I have to reveal a secret – your passions are not something that are hidden away from you, something to be discovered that you haven’t previously allowed yourself to see.  One person I was talking with said that when she wrote down her passions nothing new came to mind.  How could it?  We can only be passionate about what we know, or we think we know, we want.  You can’t be passionate about something you don’t know.  But you can, and many people are, not be focused on your passions or even dismiss them because they are so obvious. When I work with clients who want to make changes in their life one of the first things ...

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When you go through any challenge, you are tested, and to learn and grow we need to be challenged, it is that simple. Just last week I thought I was on a clear path, the indicators told me so, so when that wasn't so my head and heart were in conflict. It was like one of those surreal moments you are disassociated from the experience and see yourself in it. Well that was me, shocked and in disbelief. That was last week and today I am in a better place. Time does heal that is for sure. As they say one door closes and another one opens, I believe things happen for a reason, and so I have justified it and filed the moment somewhere in my learnings. I decide how I feel about things and my experiences; sure there is sadness and disappointment. However I choose to be grateful and feel loved, adored and wanted. That is a better place to resonate from. And that is what I choose. Feeling overwhelmed with emotions and stuck in the moment does not help me move on; in fact it does the complete o...

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When we keep things inside that bother us, we tend to ruminate about the finer details and how it makes us feel. This can lead to feeling inadequate, unsupported, misunderstood, unloved and if you find yourself maintaining a straight face that shows to the world that you are ‘ fine’ and ‘ok’ then this article is for you! You see if you do not air your issues, you just keep burying them into the depth of your being you will generate dis-ease in your body. Especially if this is your way of coping with the knocks of life and being in relationships. Not one relationship is smooth sailing, (unless one is in full control and the other is compliant). Better I make myself clear: No one healthy relationship is smooth sailing. They all require work, love, attention, communication, trust and respect. So if you are just keeping it bottled in then you will eventually have to explode to let the air out! If you come to this explosive end, you may likely completely loose it and then suffer the c...

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Ever thought of changing your focus from managing time to managing energy? Here’s the good news if you dare to go there. Forget time, it’s all about energy! In our increasingly fast-paced and pressured lives, we crave more time and energy, making them both among the most in-demand commodities of the 21st century. We are all familiar with the clever concepts of buying time; but can we actually buy energy? The answer is, of course, ‘no’ though we do note society’s attempts in the purchasing of energy drinks, energy bars, or our embracing of the notion to increase energy through meditation, yoga or exercise. However, this is clearly not sustaining enough, as most people are still craving energy despite these hard-earned efforts to increase it. Why is this so? If we understand that time is outside of ourselves and energy is within us all, we begin to understand that energy is actually our currency for living and being. After all, without energy we can’t perform or do anything really, ev...

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