When we keep things inside that bother us, we tend to ruminate about the finer details and how it makes us feel. This can lead to feeling inadequate, unsupported, misunderstood, unloved and if you find yourself maintaining a straight face that shows to the world that you are ‘ fine’ and ‘ok’ then this article is for you! You see if you do not air your issues, you just keep burying them into the depth of your being you will generate dis-ease in your body. Especially if this is your way of coping with the knocks of life and being in relationships. Not one relationship is smooth sailing, (unless one is in full control and the other is compliant). Better I make myself clear: No one healthy relationship is smooth sailing. They all require work, love, attention, communication, trust and respect. So if you are just keeping it bottled in then you will eventually have to explode to let the air out! If you come to this explosive end, you may likely completely loose it and then suffer the c...

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Like a child on a car trip, I find myself thinking ‘Are we there yet?’  Ok I know patience is not one of my strong points, anybody that knows me will contest to that. Yet it is 2010 and somehow it feels like we are living in sci-fi age, and if that is the case then why do we still find ourselves waiting? We should have arrived by now.. Arrived to the age of awareness and understanding Arrived full circle to our realization that less is in fact more Noticed that there are some people born lucky and then there are the rest of them Being completely present in the moment and not daydreaming of the past or future Noticing that we can live simply and be authentically happy Questioning why we eat certain foods when we are feeling emotional in any way Making a connection with no hidden agenda Yes I can relate to most of those things, living simply and living consciously. It takes work to keep it simple and to really be present. For example being a p...

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A client of mine was talking about all the things she has yet to do and she became a little bit disillusioned about it all, as she felt she had left her run too late. She is in her late 30s, still single and no children and she really wants a partner and family to complete her picture. She like so many women of my generation feel that we can have it ALL, career, travel, new experiences and then find Mr Wonderful and settle down with one or two children.  Time is a finite resource we all know that and if our priorities are to work and travel then you need to have your eyes and heart open to meet Mr Wonderful during  your journey.  If you keep playing the field and not commit then you risk running out of time and you may become complacent and settle for Mr Right now.  I was watching an interview with Dame Elizabeth Murdoch she will be 100 years old next month, and what really stuck me was that she was so vivid and articulate in expressing her opinions, she said that...

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This is the time to reflect and to take stock of what we have in our lives. Many people simply just go shopping and spend money on gifts to show love. Remember the love languages? Well some people show love through gifts and others require words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch and quality time. If gifts hit your button then this time of the year is perfect for you and you will feel loved all over. Just remember your loved ones may need one of the other love languages to feel loved and wanted so remember that nothing beats quality time with someone you really care for. Sharing is part of this time of the year too, celebrating your successes and milestones. Acknowledge this and know that you are attracting more good things into your life. On a personal level, 2009 has been a wonderful year, one of my best, what can I say it marked the year of being a parent and well I am still on a high. Professionally I can be doing more, I guess that is my expectation, yet being a car...

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 It is so easy to put others first, after all we want to be liked and accepted so we try to fulfill others’ needs before our own. Mums are really good at this, taking care of the family and everyone is happy and cared for. This can leave little time for self-nurturing. And often you find that when you keep putting others first you tend to feel a tad neglected if someone is not taking care of you! Self love is about that ‘self’ you are responsible for your own happiness and if you expect others to meet this need then you are not looking within you are waiting for the external to make you happy. The ownership rests with you and self loving is a part of that. It is easy to live a reactive life, as things happen you react accordingly, kids misbehave and you are there to discipline. The house needs cleaning and so you put your cleaning gloves on. The garden needs weeding and there is another job for you over the weekend. Where does it stop? Actually this is your life and it gives you...

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For people who really are organized and structured this may come to a surprise to them, for those who just go with the flow and are truly present in the moment, they are onto something.. You see being in the now can be challenging for some especially if the current climate is chaotic to say the least. When you are busy putting things in their place you are forward, future focused as you have a picture in your mind of how things should look like and you see the mess all around you. This gives you meaning and significance as you hurriedly make changes to alter the room, place or situation. In contrast if you are totally present in whatever activity you actually are not concerned about the external environment and how that looks you are absorbed in the doing. Some say well I am organized and in the now, well it may appear so yet you are looking at the external and future projecting at how you can alter this, and perhaps there is a deeper issue to look at and resolve rather than just the...

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I was re-organising my emails when I came across an email sent to me by a dear friend.  I want to share this with you:  I printed this beautiful poem, laminated it and hung it up so I can read it daily, just so I won't forget...you may want to do the same... With love, Bianca     Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love.   I now allow this love to flow to the surface - It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give - the supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good. It is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself; therefore, I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feel it nourishing foods and beverages. I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself; therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable hom...

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Have you ever stopped to consider that the world you think you are living in is not actually what is going on? Let me explain. I wrote an email to a potential client the other day asking permission to gatecrash an event they were holding. It was a bold thing to do, but someone I trust had suggested I get in contact with them as they thought I might be able to add some value to the service they were offering in the future. I sent the mail and got on with my life.A week later and I was looking at my diary to discover that I had this event still pencilled in and another client pushing for the slot. I sent another email to the new client to see whether it was still appropriate for me to go. Nothing.With the event the following day and close of business fast approaching I managed to dig out a mobile number for the client using some deft googling skills. I wrote an SMS to her explaining my circumstances and hit send.I then had a flash of panic. I kind of 'Oh my, I think I overstepped the mar...

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Watching the MasterChef series on TV, I became more aware of how cooks need to do many tasks at the same time. Doing sauce reductions, sautéing onions, cooking vegetables preparing desserts whilst having a dish in the oven. They would have multiple pots and pans on heat, and juggling priorities so they could complete their challenge on time. To a lesser extent we also work in the same fashion, we have many tasks on the go, we are heating one dish and reading the recipe of another and hoping the one coming out of the oven is cooked and delicious. We have high expectations of ourselves and expect to perform every time, no excuses. Wherever we are in a corporate job, self-employed or in home duties we push ourselves and seek that inner-madness. The day is just too short especially if we need to ‘out-do’ our performance from the day before. We are forever raising the bar and each day we start from the starting-block ready to out perform, to marvel and excite and to create that perfect day...

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When we are doing things we often do the same as last time, we have habits and often times this dictates our actions. This is being in auto pilot and we just go through our actions in an automatic way without really thinking about it. Another way of looking at this is going down the path of least resistance. We go there every time and our body has an express route to get there. When we are in this habitual trance as I like to call it, we are really not thinking about what we are doing, it just happens. For example exercise, your body is trained to go there in a certain sequence and it just does it when you go for a jog for example, or go cycling. Can be any sport, your body knows what to do. So when we stay on this road of least resistance, we do not learn new ways, we prefer the old way because it is effortless and well by now a natural way to do things. If you learn a new sport, example golf, then this is a whole new category and you need to breakdown the actual task and model of ...

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