It is beneficial and valuable to take regular time-out of our busy lifestyles for reflection. Reflection allows us an opportunity to evaluate our lives and ourselves. Find a peaceful location that is free from distractions and be still so that you can reflect on yourself and areas of your life. During this reflection time ask yourself some important questions and then wait for your inner-guidance to provide you with the answers. Below are some suggestions. What am I doing in my life that is serving me well and that I need to continue doing? What areas of my life and myself can I improve and how can I improve them? What do I need to let go of so that I can experience more of what I want in my life? What patterns of thoughts and behaviours do I need to change and how am I going to do that? What am I learning and how can I apply my learnings to achieve better results in my life? What specific actions do I need to take in my life to be happier? How can I experience more enjoy...

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For the last 20 years I have read many times that it is very important to have a vision for whatever you want in your life.  Perhaps you’ve heard the same – without vision there is no way you can work out your pathway to your destination.   Over the years I have worked with my clients on creating a personal vision – what they would like to have their life look and feel like when they have brought everything into balance.  It is always much easier to work out the steps you need to take, when you know where you are going.   There are many ways you can do this – at the end of the personal Passion Test we ask all our participants to create a vision board – pictures and sentences that represent their top five passions.  I have created a vision book, a similar idea as the vision board but something more portable.   Only last week when I was chatting to a friend about a new focus for my work she said  “take the morning off and do a new vision board for...

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How does one describe the feeling of giving birth and then having their life completely change again? It is day 22 of his life and already I can sense a routine beginning to merge, naturally having a 25 month old toddler adds to the mix and you are constantly juggling one day at a time and living so much in the present. Each day is unique and I feel like I am going through the motions. Deep sense of love fills my heart and so grateful for having such a wonderful supportive partner through this wonderful journey. Part of me is in auto-pilot mode of doing what needs to be done and the other part is taking it all in, the newness of it all and the fact that they grow up so quickly, so I am breathing him in. It is a wonderful feeling being responsible for such beautiful creations and knowing what you do and how you feel impacts their mental state.  This sets the tone for the day and I am so fully aware of that. Even today going out in a double pram, having one crying newborn you ...

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I had a client a few years back that spent too much time in her head. By that I mean she thought way too much about things and what others thought of her. She also liked to day dream, and contemplate the ‘what-if’ of life and what could be. As if she was waiting for something to come along and decide for her. Life waits for no body, no matter how rich or how lonely or how confused you are life will just continue in its’ merry way. So the sooner you realise that you want to be an active participant of it then the better your emotional state will be. Which means living mindfully and consciously of each day. Day dreaming just takes you to the past or the future where you are not, and so you delay some important decisions in the now because you are caught up with worst-case scenario thinking. Not a really good move as you are here in the now and need to see and feel what is around you. So one of those areas we worked on was being mindful of your thoughts, and replacing the negative thoug...

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The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.  The quality of the relationship that you have with yourself will determine the quality of relationship that you have with other areas of your life i.e. health, finances, relationships, career, emotions and spirituality.   It is vital therefore that you be a ‘best friend’ to yourself. Being a ‘best friend’ to yourself allows you to receive goodness in your life.   When we have a poor relationship with ourselves and we don’t feel good about the person we are, we choose behaviours that self-sabotage and ‘shut the gates’ to happiness and success entering our life.   So, what are some ways that you can proactively nourish the relationship that you have with yourself. The following are some suggestions.   Love Who You Are   Be happy with and love the person that you are. Remind yourself and focus daily on your positive qualities, strengths, achievements and positive comments ...

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Once again I am reminded how fortunate I am, all I see around me is love, connection, sincerity, authenticity, integrity and humility. Yet lately as I have been stuck by the winter cold, I am down and thus my body is showing me pain. If I only look at the bigger picture I have so much to be grateful for and this article is a dedication to those in my life who make me smile and make me the person I am today. So firstly those people who put up with me every day, thanks for your patience and your strength. You make me want to be a better person every day so I can be the best role model for you. Alexa you are my reason. Thomas you are my love. To my dearest sister, we may not touch base every week, yet you are in my warmest thoughts and I wish you all the best in every little adventure you take. I love you. My parents who I speak to practically every day, I may not hug you each day, but with the internet we are closer and I cannot wait to hug you for real in a few days time. You are the...

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Let go so that you can be free like a butterfly. When you let go it allows you the freedom to live the life that you want. You need to let go of things that are keeping you stuck and not allowing you to move forward towards what you desire in your life. So, what are some of the things that you may need to let go of in order for you to be free to live the life that you want. The Past: Don’t allow past experiences to rule the rest of your life. Learn from them and apply the learning to create a better life for you. Living in the past will take energy and focus away from the action you need to take in the present to achieve the results that you want in your future. Fear: Fear stops us from taking action that can improve our life. Rather than focus on the fear of taking action focus on the benefits that taking action will bring into your life. Be driven by the benefits. The Need to Please Everyone: Don’t live your life for everyone else. It is important that you respect and satisfy y...

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I just reconnected with an old work colleague and it was so nice to hear from him. Last time we spoke he had a young family and seemed to be doing well. It is interesting that from appearances we think people are doing well from the outside however he was going through some relationship issues with his wife. As he is recently remarried and expecting another little one. I guess he has now found his relationship happiness and I am so happy for him. Life is too short to be with the wrong person, we just don’t allow ourselves to shine and grow as we are too busy ‘trying’ to fix the insecurities of the other person. We change to suit them and in the long term this does not serve us anymore. We do not like ourselves anymore and we lose our sense of self. Ultimately we begin to gather confidence to tackle our own insecurities and find our own happiness, after all our spouses are not responsible for our happiness we are! So taking responsibility and accountability is the first step. When we...

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Keeping a relationship sweet with a spouse or partner over the years can often be pretty challenging. The same can also be said of business relationships. Put the two together and WOW! The concept of 'relationship skills' will take on a whole different meaning! Having lived and worked together with my husband for over 20 years, both in a  home office and away from home premises. Needless to say there have been “moments”, while we’ve learned a lot about how to run a micro business together, we've also found ways to keep our personal relationship interesting and romantic. Here are some of the strategies we have developed: • Keep the space between you clean with regular WIFLS (What I feel like saying).  Often before we go to bed at night, or even during the day if one of us can feel some tension, we ask, “Have you any WIFLS”.  This can quickly handle any misunderstandings over something the other has said or done that we disagree with or are upset about.  It ...

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When we keep things inside that bother us, we tend to ruminate about the finer details and how it makes us feel. This can lead to feeling inadequate, unsupported, misunderstood, unloved and if you find yourself maintaining a straight face that shows to the world that you are ‘ fine’ and ‘ok’ then this article is for you! You see if you do not air your issues, you just keep burying them into the depth of your being you will generate dis-ease in your body. Especially if this is your way of coping with the knocks of life and being in relationships. Not one relationship is smooth sailing, (unless one is in full control and the other is compliant). Better I make myself clear: No one healthy relationship is smooth sailing. They all require work, love, attention, communication, trust and respect. So if you are just keeping it bottled in then you will eventually have to explode to let the air out! If you come to this explosive end, you may likely completely loose it and then suffer the c...

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