The most significant decision that we can make on a day-to-day basis is our choice of attitudes.   Our attitudes towards ourselves, other people, how we live life, ideas, things, places, events that we experience etc. will have a major influence on our level of happiness.   Our attitudes set up an intention to how we approach all of these areas.   Our choice of attitudes can either help or hinder us.   I would like to suggest some attitude choices that I believe if you adopt can help you towards living a happier life.   Attitude Choice 1:  Everything, whether it is wanted or unwanted, that has and is currently occurring in my life is happening for an important reason and there is something positive that I can gain from these experiences. Life is full of wonderful experiences that I can learn and grow from.   Attitude Choice 2:  Regardless of the results that happen in my life, I am happy and proud of myself knowing that I have given ...

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Hello everyone John Spender here from motioncoachingnow.com I going to share with this week an easy way to determine what it is that you truly value & are you living your life in accordance with your values.I was sitting down at my desk the other day to sort through some papers & I started to gaze out the window staring at the deep blue ocean feeling very fortunate. My thoughts turned to the year that had been & what I allowed in my life & the trips that I had went on & all the different people that I had worked with.I made the connection that I really was living a life according to my values of helping people, travelling & spending time in nature.The things you value most you attract into your life & we see the world according to our values. For example a husband & wife go to the shopping mall where she see’s jewellery & things for the children. He’ll notice things like business suits on sale or the latest fishing magazine.The problem is most people don’t know what they truly value & ...

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There are many things that are guaranteed in life, paying taxes, death & change are a few that spring to my mind.Not to mention the fears you'll face & overcome, fears that may last a life time.Love found with an open heart & love that seems to tear us apart , only to find an inner strength that we didn't know existed.The one thing that binds them together is change. If this is true? Why are we so resisent to change.Letting go of the old & embracing the new, it was Karl Jung who said what was once true in the morning of our lives will become a lie in the evening of our lives.There's another famous quote that goes as follows, "If you always do what you have always done you'll always get what you've always gotten" UnknownThis quote is so true & there are many different ways you can tap into the habit of adapting to change.Firstly become present to everything that is by focusing on your breath. Notice the changes throughout the day, changes in temperature, a light breeze & changes from da...

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It is beneficial and valuable to take regular time-out of our busy lifestyles for reflection. Reflection allows us an opportunity to evaluate our lives and ourselves. Find a peaceful location that is free from distractions and be still so that you can reflect on yourself and areas of your life. During this reflection time ask yourself some important questions and then wait for your inner-guidance to provide you with the answers. Below are some suggestions. What am I doing in my life that is serving me well and that I need to continue doing? What areas of my life and myself can I improve and how can I improve them? What do I need to let go of so that I can experience more of what I want in my life? What patterns of thoughts and behaviours do I need to change and how am I going to do that? What am I learning and how can I apply my learnings to achieve better results in my life? What specific actions do I need to take in my life to be happier? How can I experience more enjoy...

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Most people are conscious of the negative consequences of feeding into their body unhealthy foods.   The question I would ask you is “What are the effects of what you have been and are currently feeding into your mind?”   What you feed into your mind will determine what you manifest in your life. A metaphor for this is what a computer programmer codes into computer software will determine the output of what we see on the computer screen.   Similarly what we code into our mind through our thoughts, language (self-talk & verbal) and beliefs will determine what we see, hear, think and experience in our lives.   There is an axiom “Garbage in garbage out”. Are you feeding garbage thoughts, language and beliefs into your mind? e.g. “I can’t do it”, “I am not good enough”, “I am not attractive”, “Others are better than me”, “There is something wrong with me”, “I will never be successful” etc. If you are you will find that areas of your life will start to ‘stink’. These...

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Patterns are things that we do on a consistent basis and are done at an unconscious level.   Your patterns of thoughts, language and behaviour will determine the quality of your life and the results that you achieve.   Many of your patterns have come about from influences and experiences from your environment.   Hopefully the environments you have been exposed to have led you to develop healthy patterns.   Unfortunately though there may be patterns that you are following that may not be serving you well in your life.   It is critical to identify any patterns that are not serving you and to interrupt them.   If you are not experiencing the results that you want in various areas of your life an examination of the patterns creating these results is necessary. You will find that a pattern of thoughts, language or behaviour is not allowing you to experience what you desire. Continuing to follow these patterns will lead to the same results occurring ...

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I wrote on Facebook recently that when one door closes and another opens.  One of the comments was that not only was this true but many times the door that opens is, more often than not, a better door. This was certainly true for me a few weeks ago.  I live in Spain although the majority of my business is in the UK.   I run workshops, conduct Passion Test for Business Programs with individuals and companies and do quite a lot of networking in London.  To do this we have been hugely supported by a great friend who, for the past few years, has very generously opened the doors of his house to us whenever we needed to be in the UK.  Last week we heard that this was no longer possible and so it was time for us to say a huge thank you to our friend, and find a new London “home”.  My mind went into overdrive and I totally forgot that when one door closes another (often bigger and better) one opens.  I started to fret about how we were going to be able...

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As the saying goes “If you fail to plan you plan to fail”.   The question I would like to ask of you is “Are you investing some time in planning each week?”   Planning helps to set you up for success. So many times people fail to achieve what they want in life due to an absence or lack of adequate planning.   Planning is a worthwhile investment of your time. It is important to make time for it. A small amount of time spent planning can assist you in being more effective with your time and can help you to achieve better outcomes in your life.   Planning helps you to become the creator of your life. It allows you to come up with deliberate strategies/approaches to achieve the outcomes that you want. Your life only happens once so give yourself the time to plan how you want to live and experience it.   Planning keeps you focused on what actions you need to be taking. It provides you with a step by step guide to follow.   Planning can help yo...

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We have the council ‘dump your rubbish’ pick up soon and as I see the collection of people’s junk on the pavement, I am reminded of how much stuff we hoard and carry. It is easy to dump it on the lawn and wait for someone else to clear it. After all we use ‘stuff’ and then get tired of it, bored with it or we break it, so we discard it. It is easy. Then we purchase a replacement and the cycle begins again, that is consumerism I guess. Mentally we also carry stuff, wouldn’t it be great to do the same with ‘mental stuff’ we carry, to simply just dump it somewhere to be transported somewhere else.  Well with life coaching we can, we just need to own our own issues and know that what no longer serves us needs to be replaced with more positive and useful thinking. See it this way, why carry issues/stuff from the past that does not serve you any longer, just adds to your concerns and your emotional baggage. Sure we do not forget, but isn’t it better to simply let go of it so we...

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The quality of your life will depend on the choices that you make.   The results that you are receiving in the different areas of your life will be the accumulation of the day to day choices that you are making in those areas. If you are not achieving the results that you want in particular areas reflect on your past and current choices and ask yourself “Am I making the right choices and do I need to commit to making some different choices?”   Some of the important choices you may want to think about are:   How you spend your time;   Who you decide to have relationships with;   How you manage your money;   How you treat yourself;   Your attitude in life;   Being truthful; and   How you respond to events in life.   Your choices will steer the direction that your life takes.   It is therefore important that you think carefully about the choices that you are...

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