Success holds many different meanings to people. To some it’s equal with being famous and earning lots of money. To others it means helping out others to improve social conditions, achieving excellence in a particular area of life/ career or simply creating something that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling and wells up a beaming smile from cheek to cheek Yet no matter what peoples personal ambition is, there’s a common reason in the traits possessed by all successful individuals. Firstly, they have a dream. Secondly, they believe in themselves. And finally, they’re prepared to work and stick with it when the going gets tough. A theme that keeps repeating itself in successful peoples thinking is the importance of being able to learn from their mistakes. In fact, what separates the winner from the person who also ran in the race, is the achiever’s ability to get up again and again and keep heading for that goal – despite failures and setbacks along the way. Think of a person you believ...

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I was adding to our Click A Life Coach - Forum and updating my goals for 2008 when I found myself being hit hard by my own revelation. This year is already flying by and I have found on more than one occasion that I am getting slightly overwhelmed by everything that I have to do. Taking the viewpoint that we are responsible for our own situation, I realised that I have created this mayhem. Taking some much needed time out over the Easter long weekend has made me recognise that I’ve bitten off more than I can chew (sorry for the cheesy cliche). I used to think that if someone needed my help then I had better give it to them (after all, it makes me feel good about myself too). And there’s nothing wrong with this belief system at all (if only there were more helpful people in the world!) The danger comes though from being too helpful. Yes it sounds crazy – but this can occur in two ways:   Saying ‘yes’ to everything that is asked of you Seeking out actions and volunte...

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Is it just me or are there pregnant ladies everywhere? In the city, shopping malls, crossing the street, at cafes even at the swimming pool? This is wonderful to see new life beginning and the ladies displaying their beautiful bellies. Even the clothes they wear are flattering, no longer are they wearing granny tops that look like tents, these soon-to-be mums, have hit the fashion stakes and look fit and healthy. Even the clothes stores have more choices now catering for such Romanesque women. It’s a mine field, and naturally then come the baby clothes and baby things. Don’t get me started on that! Can this be an indicator that the economy is doing well and people are realizing their dreams to have a family because the indicators are there? Steady employment, the mining boom, consumer confidence is high. Life seems to giving us these signals that new life is now welcomed, and thus the abundance. We live in a great city, Sydney has so much to offer those seeking, balance, variety, car...

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When you are in a state of flow, everything just happens, your path is as clear as day as you navigate yourself to the ultimate goal. Life becomes simplified and a joy in everyway. Then you maybe tested with an unforeseen obstacle. You hesitate as you ponder what this really means and wonder if your momentum is compromised. By the time you assess the situation you find yourself in a limbo state, then the negative thoughts take over like a fever and your mind is confused as you ramble to make sense of it all. Obstacles mean we are moving towards what we want, so see them as what they are: as obstacles to overcome and this will re-establish your momentum and your energy flow. Flow is still there you just recognized a bump on the road; this doesn’t stop your flow it just makes you realize that you need to keep going and soon enough others will come to you as you radiate this energy. Like attracts like so you cannot help but receive those resources that will assist you get there. Just ens...

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I have had the small success now of having stuck with one of my goals for this year – to get fitter! (Well actually, its more like a ‘pre-wedding’ resolution that started back in December, but I’m still going strong). I’m up everyone morning with my weights and new running shoes – and I must admit, I’ve never felt better. I bring this up, not to remind you of how you’re going with any new year’s resolutions specifically, rather ‘how are you going with what you don’t like’? You see, I’m not a runner – never have been. Actually I hate it - much prefer to walk. Yet since I’ve been out every morning with my personal trainer (who thankfully I live with anyway … spoilt I know), I’ve actually found myself enjoying the exercise. Yesterday I even went for two runs – on my own! And I know what you’re thinking – oh she’s just doing this until the wedding and then she’ll let herself go! Well who knows? I can’t predict what will happen then, but what I do know is that I have three more months to ...

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  Are you having trouble balancing your life?  This is a common challenge that most people encounter and find difficult to resolve. I hope that this article assists you in taking some steps to improve the balance in your life.  The 3 important questions that I ask my clients when they want a solution to creating more balance in their life are:  1. Do you value your time?; 2. Can you be disciplined?; and 3. Are you willing to change habits?  What are some causes for us getting out of balance?  *Dealing with the urgent and not the important * Being disorganised * Procrastination * Too much time spent on the phone or computer * Watching too much television * Changes in family roles * Belief systems * Deterioration of boundaries between work and home * Disease to please. Can’t say “NO” * Inability to delegate * Lack of planning * Longer work hours * Clutter in our environment * Time bandits  What are the consequences of not having b...

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It is interesting to see that many people are just waiting, waiting for their lives to begin, to feel complete, to be happy, they are in a queue and their number isn’t up yet. Do you get this feeling sometimes? It is like those who buy a lotto ticket, thinking that they deserve to win, and yet week after week they are still at the mercy of the lotto draw. With waiting comes the anticipation that once they have ‘it’ then life can truly begin, I often hear, ‘when I have a new career I will feel happier about my direction’ or ‘when I have my soul mate I will feel complete’. What are these people waiting for? An opportunity, an external power to come into their lives to make it better, a fix, a solution. They wait and expectations get higher as the time keeps on ticking. If you haven’t achieved those goals in 2007, well then begin afresh in 2008. Also explore the reasons why you haven’t achieved them, are they always the same goals? Do you find yourself indulging in sabotage behaviours ...

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I heard the other day in my yoga class about how we hold onto emotions and they are stored in our bodies, in particular our hips. Made me think about my tight hips and what is going on for me. A whole range of emotions poured out as I had been layering them in, one at a time, thus my hips got tighter and less mobile. On the outside I look healthy and I can still dance salsa, however on the inside I knew my hips were crying to just ‘let go’ of all the residual punishment I had subjected them too, my emotional rollercoaster. Going through the IVF program is like climbing a mountain, or running a marathon, never ending and full of surprises and disappointments. Your life evolves around the calendar, dates, blood tests and ultra sounds. You place everything else on hold and you prioritize your life. I have been on the journey for two years and yes it is emotional. Combine this with my Latin blood and it is almost a deadly combination! I am glad that now I laugh about it, distant from my ...

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Its that time of year again (yes, Christmas already) when we get to look back on the last 12 months and reflect on what was good … and what was not-so-good. So get that crumpled piece of paper out from the back of your drawer with your New Year’s Resolutions neatly laid out for the year ahead (the year that now was). How did you go? Can you find the list? Did you even write one? If you’ve found your list and are rejoicing over how many of your resolutions you can tick off – then step up and give yourself a pat on the back. Then get out there and celebrate – because you’re out there achieving your goals and living your dreams – congratulations. If you’re looking at your list in disappointment (or scratching your head working out what you might have written down) then you may want to ask yourself the following questions: What got in your way? Did you fall back into old habits? Did you lose focus? Was it all too hard? Has something happened to completely change the direction of your l...

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You hear people often say ‘be in the now’ and ‘live in the moment’. They are all talking about being really there in that precise moment and connecting with that thought/event. I just read an excerpt from a book ‘My Steve’ by Terri Irwin, she spoke about her late husband, Steve Irwin alias the ‘crocodile hunter’. It was evident that he saw life as an adventure to be lived every minute. He was on a mission to do as much as possible everyday, he didn’t sleep that much as his batteries recharged quickly and once they were he was on a trail to explore, learn, teach people about what he loved most, the wildlife kingdom. His sense of curiosity was never satisfied, thus his thirst for living was never quenched. The energy he radiated was magnetic, he lived in the NOW, truly and for him time was of essence. He needed to do as much as possible in the time he had left on this earth, he took risks, and that provided the thrills, and excitement. What a wonderful example of a person on a mission,...

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