Life is so precious; we take it for granted sometimes and live each week just like any other. We get into a routine and mentally cross out the calendar as each day goes by. For those who work for somebody else this is a real significance as you approach the end of the working week and count down until Friday afternoon. We also take our health for granted, thinking it will always be there for us, and when we have a health challenge then we hit a brick wall and wonder ‘why me?’ Most of us fall into the victim mode and become reactive at what life throws us. This is like we are against the world in the boxing ring and we are loosing the battle. As our emotions run high and we cannot see clearly as we are in the bubble of our drama. The power is in turning this around and owning your health issue, researching options, becoming the investigator and the observer in our situation. I have gone through this cycle and it is amazing the self- growth you get from coming out the other side. Beca...

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Pay attention and be aware of the type of questions that you find yourself using. The questions that you ask yourself can either be helpful or detrimental. It is important to focus on asking helping questions. It is unfortunate that the majority of people unwittingly ask themselves questions that keep them stuck in life’s challenges. They ask themselves questions that dwell on the problem, lay blame and reinforce negatives. I term them ‘Stuck’ questions because they don’t allow you to move forward and overcome the challenges. Have you ever asked yourself these types of questions? “Why does this always happen to me?” “Why can’t I do anything right?” “What is wrong with me?” “Who is to blame for this?” “Why doesn’t anybody like me?” I’m sure you have. We are all guilty of asking ourselves these types of questions. The problem occurs for us when we spend most of our time asking these types of questions. You really do not want the answers to these question...

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Don’t you just love it when you still learn something new about your partner/husband, even though you’ve been together for so long! The other day I was having a conversation with my other half about friendship and our respective circle of friends (with particular reference to why he regards certain school friends as more “my friends” and not “his friends”.) The fact that we have both known them equally for 15 years doesn’t sway him to my rationale that they are “our friends”. As far as he is concerned his circle is full at the moment... We always say we need to get out of our comfort zone (and he would be the first to agree that that is an area that he could work on) but sometimes we also need to pull back on ourselves and be realistic. His reason for not taking on “more friends” - he can’t even look after the ones he’s got! Why should he stretch himself to the point where he can’t maintain a decent friendship with anyone? I’m using the analogy of friendship for shock value (for the ...

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Forgiveness is about willingly letting go of past hurts so that we are able to live a happier life in the present. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things for us to do. It is easier said than done, especially when something has caused us great pain or hurt in our lives. We have all experienced events in our lives that have and will continue to affect us in a negative way if we allow it. These hurts cause us to have feelings such as sadness, confusion, guilt, bitterness and anger and can lead us possibly to wanting to seek revenge. The more that we dwell on these hurts the more powerful and destructive they become. They can poison our lives. They can also consume a lot of our focus and energy; focus and energy which could be better directed to more important things in our life that will bring us joy and happiness. While we are dwelling on the past hurts we could be missing out on wonderful opportunities in the present. In my own life experiences I have had situations where I found ...

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In 2005 I was in pieces. I was shattered by a relationship break down. The path ahead was no longer clear, and I was full of self-doubt. It was at this point that I turned inwards, and my journey of spiritual discovery began. What I found was my Inner Essence through self development. It enabled me to recognise the power and strength at the core of my being. I was able to unlock my hidden potential. Along the way I was assisted by spiritual guides, angels and ascended masters. Shared experiences with friends moulded who I became. Like the caterpillar, after metamorphosis, I emerged a beautiful butterfly. So how can you discover your Inner Essence? I would like to share with you seven techniques which will help you on your own spiritual journey of enlightenment. Revisit painful experiences. Do you feel angry about a relationship break down? Do you resent the promotion of a work colleague? Are you feeling guilty about the way you treated a family member? To move on yo...

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Too many times we judge and blame ourselves or others rather than seek to understand why we or they think or behave in certain ways. Judging and blaming keeps us stuck and does not allow us to progress in a positive direction. It just keeps us going around in vicious circles. A lack of understanding in our life creates anger, frustration, heartache, stress, anxiety and negative experiences. If you take the time to understand yourself and others it will improve the quality of your life. This understanding allows us to become more aware of why we and others think and behave in the manner that we do and provides us with an opportunity to adjust our thoughts and behaviours as required. For instance, we all have personalities that will influence our thoughts and behaviours. My personality style is Stable/Steady. Approximately 65% of the population falls into this category of personality. The greatest fear of a Stable/Steady personality type is loss of security and one of their weakne...

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Success holds many different meanings to people. To some it’s equal with being famous and earning lots of money. To others it means helping out others to improve social conditions, achieving excellence in a particular area of life/ career or simply creating something that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling and wells up a beaming smile from cheek to cheek Yet no matter what peoples personal ambition is, there’s a common reason in the traits possessed by all successful individuals. Firstly, they have a dream. Secondly, they believe in themselves. And finally, they’re prepared to work and stick with it when the going gets tough. A theme that keeps repeating itself in successful peoples thinking is the importance of being able to learn from their mistakes. In fact, what separates the winner from the person who also ran in the race, is the achiever’s ability to get up again and again and keep heading for that goal – despite failures and setbacks along the way. Think of a person you believ...

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I was adding to our Click A Life Coach - Forum and updating my goals for 2008 when I found myself being hit hard by my own revelation. This year is already flying by and I have found on more than one occasion that I am getting slightly overwhelmed by everything that I have to do. Taking the viewpoint that we are responsible for our own situation, I realised that I have created this mayhem. Taking some much needed time out over the Easter long weekend has made me recognise that I’ve bitten off more than I can chew (sorry for the cheesy cliche). I used to think that if someone needed my help then I had better give it to them (after all, it makes me feel good about myself too). And there’s nothing wrong with this belief system at all (if only there were more helpful people in the world!) The danger comes though from being too helpful. Yes it sounds crazy – but this can occur in two ways:   Saying ‘yes’ to everything that is asked of you Seeking out actions and volunte...

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Is it just me or are there pregnant ladies everywhere? In the city, shopping malls, crossing the street, at cafes even at the swimming pool? This is wonderful to see new life beginning and the ladies displaying their beautiful bellies. Even the clothes they wear are flattering, no longer are they wearing granny tops that look like tents, these soon-to-be mums, have hit the fashion stakes and look fit and healthy. Even the clothes stores have more choices now catering for such Romanesque women. It’s a mine field, and naturally then come the baby clothes and baby things. Don’t get me started on that! Can this be an indicator that the economy is doing well and people are realizing their dreams to have a family because the indicators are there? Steady employment, the mining boom, consumer confidence is high. Life seems to giving us these signals that new life is now welcomed, and thus the abundance. We live in a great city, Sydney has so much to offer those seeking, balance, variety, car...

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When you are in a state of flow, everything just happens, your path is as clear as day as you navigate yourself to the ultimate goal. Life becomes simplified and a joy in everyway. Then you maybe tested with an unforeseen obstacle. You hesitate as you ponder what this really means and wonder if your momentum is compromised. By the time you assess the situation you find yourself in a limbo state, then the negative thoughts take over like a fever and your mind is confused as you ramble to make sense of it all. Obstacles mean we are moving towards what we want, so see them as what they are: as obstacles to overcome and this will re-establish your momentum and your energy flow. Flow is still there you just recognized a bump on the road; this doesn’t stop your flow it just makes you realize that you need to keep going and soon enough others will come to you as you radiate this energy. Like attracts like so you cannot help but receive those resources that will assist you get there. Just ens...

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