Attitude is everything, if you have a crappy attitude you: • Age quicker • Suffer from stress internally and externally • Attract disaster upon disaster • Have failed relationships because you are so crappy no one will tolerate you • Pay double for things because people don’t offer any discounts (most likely they increase their prices!) • You are always running late because you are busy complaining about the bad service • You rarely go out and thus have very few friends • You hate Christmas and your birthday because people who are supposed to love you forget • Life is SO HARD • Other people are luckier than you • You have had a tough life and you see no way out Just imagine living like this? Today I met someone with these characteristics he was our bus driver on the way home. We were in the city and it was a busy bus route to jump on especially if you have a pram, the driver was angry and bitter, a crappy attitude alrig...

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Last night a friend was telling me about her discussion with her boss, it went something like this: I know you are intelligent And you know I am intelligent So let’s just be real and tell it how it is.. And they discussed issues pertinent to her team and the stresses that they were all working under. It was an honest open discourse and she felt good about just laying it on the table and he felt enlighten about what was going on. Being real is not as difficult as it first appears you just need to be prepared to be honest and be ready for the other person to be as honest in return. I remember many years ago I had this type of talk with an ex boyfriend and he told me all the things he didn’t like about me including my physical features! I guess I wasn’t looking for this type of honesty, but I invited it so I should have been more prepared. When you are authentic you have no hidden agenda as you speak your truth, sometimes this can cause conflict as you need to be a little bit more s...

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Good things happen to other people, you see them on Sunday with their beautiful clothes, cars and families. They are having gelato at the corner café, all seem to be getting along famously. You wonder, ‘what a lucky woman, she seems to have it all’. Yes good things happen to others whilst you are simply struggling to find the right partner and hopefully one day have some good fortune. Can you believe that people actually think like this? They feel that they are not worthy or deserving of having such a reality?  Putting others on a pedestal just distances you from your ideal life. Making it appear so far away and unattainable. Well as a life coach I am here to tell you that you can be that lucky woman if you first of all, believe in yourself. It still surprises me how some women will under play their strengths so others can take the credit, they do not want to shine. They want to fly under the radar and just get by. Well with this attitude how on earth are you going to attract th...

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Do you ever feel like you start a million projects at once and then end up overwhelmed at the enormity of the task you have set up for yourself? Yes I can, I am living this at the present moment, my to do list seems to stretch out for miles and all I can manage are the basics, domestics, taking care of our 9 month old and then sporadic emails between her nap time or whilst she plays at my feet. I want to do more much more in my day; I want to balance this out with creativity, writing contributing to others and focusing on my online business. Yet this is not meant to be, well not in the last few weeks. I pride myself in completing tasks; this gives me so much satisfaction and a sense of completion. So when I find myself with some precious time, I start 5 things instead of one and then run myself ragged at trying to finish them all, what a chaotic way of being. Totally counter-productive. I know I can do so much more and I need to feel the flow, yet somehow the flow is lost, buried de...

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Do you find yourself reacting at life? You know things just happen and you just do. You need to organize the meals, shopping, activities for the family, plus you have work you need to bring home plus organize holidays, prepare meals in advance. You are just operating at what life throws you, and you wonder how you will find the time to get some down time. Having down time means you can recharge and breathe in the minute. Well life may give you 30 minutes to yourself it is just that you need to get up ultra early to receive your reward. Welcome to modern living and so many of us are running this exact program.   Only today I was chasing my tail, my little baby is now almost 8 months and for us this means she takes less naps, and she wants more attention and structured play time. Whilst running a business from home and organizing healthy snacks and lunch plus the continual laundry (why did I opt to use cloth nappies, what was I thinking?) Life will never be the same again. And ...

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Why do people stay in relationships which make them unhappy? I ask myself this as lately this theme just keeps coming up. I guess the fear of being alone comes up, and the fact that this is all they know, even if this relationship is toxic and is dysfunctional. This is a certainty even if you get angry and feel depleted you want out but cannot muster the energy and the resources to walk away…. You live under the same roof yet you are miles away mentally and physically, you just stay in this hoping that they will change their ways….   Well no matter how much you want them to change and fulfill your needs they may not. You cannot control them. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness otherwise you just mirror each other and this is why you feel so down. You need to nurture yourself and protect yourself.   Do something about it; after all you deserve to be happy don’t you? You are the master of your own destiny so how much more pain are you willing to fee...

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I was reading the body & soul section in the Sunday Telegraph and read an article on beating depression naturally. This inspired me to write our own 10 Tips on beating the blues. It is easy to feel down and lethargic during times when things are not going to our plan. Life has a way of throwing unexpected turns and no matter how much we want control we just need to let go. Simple things can become huge in our minds and we become self-absorbed and stuck. Here are some tips on beating this state of mind.   1.   Stress Management: Studies have linked stress to multiple conditions and if you are feeling down, then minimize your stress levels. Hormones we excrete during periods of stress interfere with our brain chemistry and lead to sleep disturbance. So address this area(s) in your life to improve your state of mind. Work smarter not harder, this will help you reduce your stress and achieve more balance in your life.   2.   Exercise: When we exercis...

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Recently a client of mine achieved his major goal, it was huge and he needed to celebrate the occasion, yet he felt guilty about doing so as he knew many others were doing it tough and he didn’t want to appear like he was showing off!   Amazing isn’t it? How we value the opinions of others and this curbs our behaviour so we fit in and feel accepted. So many people play down their successes so not too stand out too much. Well I am here to say that you owe it to yourself to JUMP UP and really celebrate. You have done the work, manifested your desired outcome and overcame all those obstacles. You were focused and believed that this was yours to take. Even when things were stacked against you, you kept on your path, unwavering and unrelenting. Even after one failure after another you did not let that beat you. You are the captain of your ship. You accepted the natural laws of intention and positive thinking and guess what? IT WORKED!!   You made it so why become the shrinking vi...

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I was re-organising my emails when I came across an email sent to me by a dear friend.  I want to share this with you:  I printed this beautiful poem, laminated it and hung it up so I can read it daily, just so I won't forget...you may want to do the same... With love, Bianca     Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love.   I now allow this love to flow to the surface - It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give - the supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good. It is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself; therefore, I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feel it nourishing foods and beverages. I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself; therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable hom...

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During the weekend my husbands’ laptop decided to take a break, and as it usually happens it was not a good time to have a software meltdown. So he spent the majority of the time reinstalling software and ensuring all worked for the next working day. This made me think about our own internal diagnostics and what do we do to self regulate.  We have people around us to keep us in check most of the time, we have our own internal self guidance system of our emotions and how the day runs for us. We have filtering systems and also expectations of our routine and these are habits we have formed over time..   So what happens when the program doesn’t work? Or we simply freeze in the moment because we have to make a decision and weigh up the pros and cons.   This is when our self diagnostics needs a re-boot of some kind. We are forced to look at the situation and really think about our self guidance and where it fits into our model of the world.   I will spare you the detail...

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