The most significant decision that we can make on a day-to-day basis is our choice of attitudes.   Our attitudes towards ourselves, other people, how we live life, ideas, things, places, events that we experience etc. will have a major influence on our level of happiness.   Our attitudes set up an intention to how we approach all of these areas.   Our choice of attitudes can either help or hinder us.   I would like to suggest some attitude choices that I believe if you adopt can help you towards living a happier life.   Attitude Choice 1:  Everything, whether it is wanted or unwanted, that has and is currently occurring in my life is happening for an important reason and there is something positive that I can gain from these experiences. Life is full of wonderful experiences that I can learn and grow from.   Attitude Choice 2:  Regardless of the results that happen in my life, I am happy and proud of myself knowing that I have given ...

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There are many things that are guaranteed in life, paying taxes, death & change are a few that spring to my mind.Not to mention the fears you'll face & overcome, fears that may last a life time.Love found with an open heart & love that seems to tear us apart , only to find an inner strength that we didn't know existed.The one thing that binds them together is change. If this is true? Why are we so resisent to change.Letting go of the old & embracing the new, it was Karl Jung who said what was once true in the morning of our lives will become a lie in the evening of our lives.There's another famous quote that goes as follows, "If you always do what you have always done you'll always get what you've always gotten" UnknownThis quote is so true & there are many different ways you can tap into the habit of adapting to change.Firstly become present to everything that is by focusing on your breath. Notice the changes throughout the day, changes in temperature, a light breeze & changes from da...

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Most people are conscious of the negative consequences of feeding into their body unhealthy foods.   The question I would ask you is “What are the effects of what you have been and are currently feeding into your mind?”   What you feed into your mind will determine what you manifest in your life. A metaphor for this is what a computer programmer codes into computer software will determine the output of what we see on the computer screen.   Similarly what we code into our mind through our thoughts, language (self-talk & verbal) and beliefs will determine what we see, hear, think and experience in our lives.   There is an axiom “Garbage in garbage out”. Are you feeding garbage thoughts, language and beliefs into your mind? e.g. “I can’t do it”, “I am not good enough”, “I am not attractive”, “Others are better than me”, “There is something wrong with me”, “I will never be successful” etc. If you are you will find that areas of your life will start to ‘stink’. These...

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For the last 20 years I have read many times that it is very important to have a vision for whatever you want in your life.  Perhaps you’ve heard the same – without vision there is no way you can work out your pathway to your destination.   Over the years I have worked with my clients on creating a personal vision – what they would like to have their life look and feel like when they have brought everything into balance.  It is always much easier to work out the steps you need to take, when you know where you are going.   There are many ways you can do this – at the end of the personal Passion Test we ask all our participants to create a vision board – pictures and sentences that represent their top five passions.  I have created a vision book, a similar idea as the vision board but something more portable.   Only last week when I was chatting to a friend about a new focus for my work she said  “take the morning off and do a new vision board for...

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As the saying goes “If you fail to plan you plan to fail”.   The question I would like to ask of you is “Are you investing some time in planning each week?”   Planning helps to set you up for success. So many times people fail to achieve what they want in life due to an absence or lack of adequate planning.   Planning is a worthwhile investment of your time. It is important to make time for it. A small amount of time spent planning can assist you in being more effective with your time and can help you to achieve better outcomes in your life.   Planning helps you to become the creator of your life. It allows you to come up with deliberate strategies/approaches to achieve the outcomes that you want. Your life only happens once so give yourself the time to plan how you want to live and experience it.   Planning keeps you focused on what actions you need to be taking. It provides you with a step by step guide to follow.   Planning can help yo...

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I was coaching a Big Stretch recently up in the mountains of Spain.  This is a powerful week-long holiday/course in which we ask the participants to identify an area of their life where they want to stretch and take big steps forward.    As we all know stretching out of your comfort zone is scary.  And it should be!  Any goal that is only exciting is too small and we will grow out it far too quickly.  Any goal that is only scary is too big and we simply won’t go there.  So the right kind of goal is the one that is both scary and exciting!   So much for the theory, but what about the practise?  When you are sitting in front of a big stretchy goal often one of the challenges is “Can I trust myself to be able to handle this?  Will I be able to handle the challenges inherent in this, and succeed?”  We had just this question arise on the course.    Of course there are no guarantees that any decision we take will work ...

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We have the council ‘dump your rubbish’ pick up soon and as I see the collection of people’s junk on the pavement, I am reminded of how much stuff we hoard and carry. It is easy to dump it on the lawn and wait for someone else to clear it. After all we use ‘stuff’ and then get tired of it, bored with it or we break it, so we discard it. It is easy. Then we purchase a replacement and the cycle begins again, that is consumerism I guess. Mentally we also carry stuff, wouldn’t it be great to do the same with ‘mental stuff’ we carry, to simply just dump it somewhere to be transported somewhere else.  Well with life coaching we can, we just need to own our own issues and know that what no longer serves us needs to be replaced with more positive and useful thinking. See it this way, why carry issues/stuff from the past that does not serve you any longer, just adds to your concerns and your emotional baggage. Sure we do not forget, but isn’t it better to simply let go of it so we...

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The quality of your life will depend on the choices that you make.   The results that you are receiving in the different areas of your life will be the accumulation of the day to day choices that you are making in those areas. If you are not achieving the results that you want in particular areas reflect on your past and current choices and ask yourself “Am I making the right choices and do I need to commit to making some different choices?”   Some of the important choices you may want to think about are:   How you spend your time;   Who you decide to have relationships with;   How you manage your money;   How you treat yourself;   Your attitude in life;   Being truthful; and   How you respond to events in life.   Your choices will steer the direction that your life takes.   It is therefore important that you think carefully about the choices that you are...

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 A new year signifies a brand new start, and so with getting on with living and pursuing happiness we find ourselves on a very personal quest. I know many clients who years ago came to me for whatever reason, are in a totally different place now. Many are living their ideal life, they are enjoying those moments and live in the now. Many are also pushing their boundaries and learning more about letting go and being their authentic self. Coaching does that to people, makes them really look at their life and what needs to change so they can align themselves with their true values and belief systems. Life is in a constant state of influx, and so is the way we live, one day you can predict everything that will happen and have full control. Yet on another day you will feel like life has ‘done’ something to you and you are in reactive mode. Take the recent floods in Queensland for example, human nature does not discriminate, this can happen to anybody, so if you are in a natural di...

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I had a client a few years back that spent too much time in her head. By that I mean she thought way too much about things and what others thought of her. She also liked to day dream, and contemplate the ‘what-if’ of life and what could be. As if she was waiting for something to come along and decide for her. Life waits for no body, no matter how rich or how lonely or how confused you are life will just continue in its’ merry way. So the sooner you realise that you want to be an active participant of it then the better your emotional state will be. Which means living mindfully and consciously of each day. Day dreaming just takes you to the past or the future where you are not, and so you delay some important decisions in the now because you are caught up with worst-case scenario thinking. Not a really good move as you are here in the now and need to see and feel what is around you. So one of those areas we worked on was being mindful of your thoughts, and replacing the negative thoug...

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