How does one describe the feeling of giving birth and then having their life completely change again? It is day 22 of his life and already I can sense a routine beginning to merge, naturally having a 25 month old toddler adds to the mix and you are constantly juggling one day at a time and living so much in the present. Each day is unique and I feel like I am going through the motions. Deep sense of love fills my heart and so grateful for having such a wonderful supportive partner through this wonderful journey. Part of me is in auto-pilot mode of doing what needs to be done and the other part is taking it all in, the newness of it all and the fact that they grow up so quickly, so I am breathing him in. It is a wonderful feeling being responsible for such beautiful creations and knowing what you do and how you feel impacts their mental state.  This sets the tone for the day and I am so fully aware of that. Even today going out in a double pram, having one crying newborn you ...

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Keep on Going. Ok, so we’ve all heard the phrase “when the going gets tough, the tough get going!” or maybe “when life gives you lemons make lemonade!”  Or even “don’t worry when the rug gets pulled from under your feet – learn to dance on a shifting carpet!”    What a collection of clichés! All of these sayings are kind of saying the same thing – keep on moving forward and let the challenges be the fuel for that movement.  Where are you in your life right now?  Are things moving as you want or maybe you getting disheartened, feeling everything is slowing down so much that maybe it feels like you are not moving at all?  I recently had a huge disappointment.  Something that I thought was going to be a large part of my work for at least the next ten years didn’t work out.  For a variety of reasons it wasn’t the ‘fit’ I thought I was.  For a few days I had a good old wallow in poor me until I realised that this was one of ‘those’ lem...

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“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.  Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it.  Avoiding danger is not safer in the long run than exposure.” Helen Keller. I have always loved this quote, well to be honest I have always loved the first bit.  I have never seen the whole of it and when you do it makes it even more powerful.  It came to me at the end of my meditation and somehow resonated deeply.  What also resonated was it is my choice.  Am I going to continue to choose the daring adventure?  Are you? The past year has been a roller coaster year for many people and many have found it full of challenges. Maybe it is the same for you.  At those moments it is tempting to climb under the covers and feel a little ‘poor me’.  However not only is it the time to keep on going but it also a time to step back into the middle of the river rather than hang onto the sides.  To choose the daring...

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 A new year signifies a brand new start, and so with getting on with living and pursuing happiness we find ourselves on a very personal quest. I know many clients who years ago came to me for whatever reason, are in a totally different place now. Many are living their ideal life, they are enjoying those moments and live in the now. Many are also pushing their boundaries and learning more about letting go and being their authentic self. Coaching does that to people, makes them really look at their life and what needs to change so they can align themselves with their true values and belief systems. Life is in a constant state of influx, and so is the way we live, one day you can predict everything that will happen and have full control. Yet on another day you will feel like life has ‘done’ something to you and you are in reactive mode. Take the recent floods in Queensland for example, human nature does not discriminate, this can happen to anybody, so if you are in a natural di...

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I had a client a few years back that spent too much time in her head. By that I mean she thought way too much about things and what others thought of her. She also liked to day dream, and contemplate the ‘what-if’ of life and what could be. As if she was waiting for something to come along and decide for her. Life waits for no body, no matter how rich or how lonely or how confused you are life will just continue in its’ merry way. So the sooner you realise that you want to be an active participant of it then the better your emotional state will be. Which means living mindfully and consciously of each day. Day dreaming just takes you to the past or the future where you are not, and so you delay some important decisions in the now because you are caught up with worst-case scenario thinking. Not a really good move as you are here in the now and need to see and feel what is around you. So one of those areas we worked on was being mindful of your thoughts, and replacing the negative thoug...

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If you think about the results or outcomes that you are receiving in any area of your life there will be a correlation to the level of commitment you are providing in that area.   I know that when I reflect on areas of my own life, whether it be when I was at school or in my career, business, relationships, finances or spiritual life, I have always achieved the best results or outcomes when I have been truly committed.   If you are not achieving the results or outcomes in any area of your life evaluate for a moment your level of commitment in that area. Be honest with yourself. Could you be committing more in those areas? Are you dedicating the necessary time, energy, and resources to achieve the results or outcomes that you want in that area?   There is a general tendency for people to be committed to areas that are already going well for them and to neglect or avoid committing to those areas that need some improvement. Human nature comes into play and we are draw...

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Just when you think you have it all planned out and you have some kind of routine and certainty, life throws you a curve ball, and you obviously did not see it coming. Well that is what life just dished out to us this week, with only 3 weeks left of this year we have received our eviction notice in our current home. Firstly we were in a state of shock and disbelief how someone can do this to us, especially so close to Christmas, our daughters’ birthday and my pending birth.  Obviously they have their reasons. Now a few days later we are in action mode, turning this dilemma into a positive, we need to in order to find the right home for us.  Otherwise we stay in victim-mode and play the blame game; this does not serve any purpose. Life does this to people and in the state of flux we find more inner strength and resources and get ready for the new. When you have moved home constantly all your life, this is just another move, that is my life and since being married (that is 6 y...

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During the last 6 days we travelled in a motor-home, you think it was big enough for the 3 of us, as it really sleeps 6. Yet I found myself feeling claustrophobic and battered from sitting in the back seat with our toddler. I had different expectations of our little mini holiday, just the 3 of us before our newest member joins us in less than 2 months time. Visions of relaxing by the campsite, reading, playing with our little one, having lots of naps and long sleeps. Yes I was delusional to say the least. Alexa didn’t like sitting in the toddler seat behind the driver, so I sat next to her, she didn’t like the constant change of scenery and her routine was out of synch.   She was extra clingy and this has been the case before we went away, so this went to the next level being in new surroundings and seeing different things. She cried a lot, and as it turned out, so did I. You get tested when you have children I am just learning this lesson. Sure I am also emotional as I appr...

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Many people are searching; for a better life, more opportunities, war-free living, work-life balance, career progression, relationship harmony, creating a family and lots of holidays and fun. Yet this becomes the goal = once attaining this happiness will arrive. Well I am here to tell you that this may not be the case, happiness doesn’t come magically at the end of your journey, happiness is part of the path. You need to be ready to find joy and happiness will just appear as you have created the space in your life. Many yogis will say that once you open your heart, happiness can come in, if you remain closed and cynical happiness has no place, you are too busy with other energies. I remember earlier in my quest to find my soul mate, I thought that I would just know which would be THE ONE, and gave myself so easily to the notion of love and connection, thinking that happiness would follow. This journey took me several years to decipher that this wasn’t necessarily the case. I needed to...

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De-stress your Success by Sacha Crouch Here is a book that is both inspiring and practical. It gives you some great real-life examples how people have overcome their own obstacles in managing their stress levels. The real bonus in my opinion is that the author shares with you her learnings, tips and offers suggestions to get your life back on track. The 6 Elements that are covered: 1)      Chapter 1: Solidify Your Priorities. What is important to you, what are your values and your big picture? What defines your happiness?   2)      Chapter 2: Choose Freedom over Approval. You cannot have approval and freedom at the same time. If you crave others to validate what you do, then you are limiting your own freedom as you place constraints on your success. What is perfection anyway? It is just your perception of what perfect is, and others will vary in opinion. So spend less energy and stress wanting to gain others approval.   ...

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