A fellow colleague told me the story about a training organization that is not functioning very well. They are not paying their employees on time and have very little internal communication. Needless to say they are not working as effectively and the morale is at an all time low. This obviously affects their service delivery as staff do not feel valued and also impacts direct business. Their enrollments for courses and workshops are struggling to fill up. The energy is negative and thus so is the results that they are getting. From an outsider’s perspective I ask " if you do not have integrity and value towards your employees how can you attract new business and retain good working relationships with your clients?". As I often say, if you work on the internal and get this right then the external will match this, as you become congruent with your environment and you begin to attract opportunities and meet the right people that will help you on your journey. As a coach, ...

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I just reconnected with an old work colleague and it was so nice to hear from him. Last time we spoke he had a young family and seemed to be doing well. It is interesting that from appearances we think people are doing well from the outside however he was going through some relationship issues with his wife. As he is recently remarried and expecting another little one. I guess he has now found his relationship happiness and I am so happy for him. Life is too short to be with the wrong person, we just don’t allow ourselves to shine and grow as we are too busy ‘trying’ to fix the insecurities of the other person. We change to suit them and in the long term this does not serve us anymore. We do not like ourselves anymore and we lose our sense of self. Ultimately we begin to gather confidence to tackle our own insecurities and find our own happiness, after all our spouses are not responsible for our happiness we are! So taking responsibility and accountability is the first step. When we...

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Lately I had many people asking me ‘why should I have a coach?” and I thought this was a good discussion for a blog post. You have most likely heard the term ‘life coach’ especially if you are on the path of self awareness and personal development.  For those who haven’t heard of this term, simply think of someone who is on your side, who can see the best in you and wants you to achieve great things in your life, things you want for yourself. This person could be a relative or spouse, yet we are not related to you or have known you for a long time. We are non-judgmental guides who assist you on your path of self discovery and self empowerment. We are here to support you when you hit some tough challenges along the new journey.  We shall be with you taking each step with you, shining the torch and holding your hand if you need. Like a good sports coach we see the best version of you, and believe you can achieve your goals. We will share our knowledge so you will reach yo...

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You would think that once you have acquired patience that you would possess it always. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. My 16 month old is a master at teaching me about patience and stopping to smell the roses. She is curious and thus will take her time, end of story. Yet according to my astrological chart I possess fire all over, my sun, moon and rising signs are all fire, and so I am used to blazing my way through life’s challenges even if it is done at 70% I just keep on going, who cares about the other 30% I say? Some people have patience in one area in their lives and not much patience in another. Take my life for example; I waited until I was almost 35 years old to meet the love of my life. So that took a l o n g time, and I didn’t settle for second best as I knew he was coming towards me. So granted I had patience. Standing in queues, waiting on hold on the telephone and waiting for my web browser to load up, these things just drive me nuts if I have to wait longer th...

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This article is for all the mums out there who on most occasions put themselves last in the family hierarchy of needs. First comes the children or husband, then the duties that must be done during the day and then you take care of your own needs. Even if it means going without you do, as other people take priority. No wonder they call this the hardest job of all, but I know how rewarding it can all be. When you have 5 minutes to yourself to reflect that is! As mothers’ day is fast approaching think about what you really do and how the family copes because you do. Amazing isn’t it? This is the time to prioritize some ‘’me” time and celebrate being you. We are geared to nurture and to allow others to shine, yet in today’s modern thinking this also refers to you and that you need to set the example for others to follow. If you make yourself shrink into the wallpaper and continue to put others first then how will your children learn that you need to be Numero Uno? They learn by example no...

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Just reading the news about this volcano causing such an impact on multiple levels makes me realize that sometimes you have No control over some plans you made so long ago. Who can anticipate the eruption of a volcano high north of the European continent would impact people as far as Australia? Well it does, people wanting to fly to Europe, all flights suspended. Not since WW2 has there been such a standstill of international flights. This puts many plans into jeopardy, which prompts the need to think about contingency and your plan B. Perhaps when you plan something think about the alternative just in case, yet again this is not really practical as you then need to think about when things go wrong. And if you have done any personal development and the law of attraction this is not a good idea as you are entertaining the thought of disaster and your plans falling through. We want to be in a positive state and feel that it will come to fruition  that is what we need to feel and ...

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For a child most things are like a jigsaw puzzle, they try to figure out how it feels, how it works, how it fits and how it can be used for other things. Just today my soon to be 16 month old took some utensils from the kitchen cabinet and started making music (it would be noise to other people!) she was very entertained and then used them as pretend telephones. As she is used to seeing her parents on the phone she too wanted to get into the act. This made me realize that in life we have one big jigsaw to unravel and what piece we use next is just based on past experiences and habit. If it doesn’t fit we force it somehow wanting it to be magic remedy. Unfortunately this strategy seldom works as with the jigsaw the piece cannot be forced. So why keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result? This is why having a different perspective and tackling it from a different angle can be beneficial. And how do we do that? We look at it with fresh eyes, look at the jigsaw puzzle fro...

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As Easter is just around the corner, I am reminded about all the surplus junk that keeps on growing in the garage and this is the perfect time to clean out the mess and de-clutter. Interesting we are not alone according to a report by the Australian Institute entitled Stuff Happens: Unused Things Cluttering Up our Homes, 88 per cent of Australian homes has at least one room full of trash-slash-treasure. And also interesting is that four out of ten Australians find themselves feeling anxious, guilty or depressed about the amount of disorder in their homes sometimes going to extraordinary lengths to deal with it. Like moving house, adding rooms, even purchasing more stuff like storage containers to accommodate the things that were brought and never used. People who horde stuff everywhere in their home and in some chronic cases they have surrounded themselves with stuff that they only see the passage to the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom. Amazing to even phantom such a state! It is not ju...

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When you go through any challenge, you are tested, and to learn and grow we need to be challenged, it is that simple. Just last week I thought I was on a clear path, the indicators told me so, so when that wasn't so my head and heart were in conflict. It was like one of those surreal moments you are disassociated from the experience and see yourself in it. Well that was me, shocked and in disbelief. That was last week and today I am in a better place. Time does heal that is for sure. As they say one door closes and another one opens, I believe things happen for a reason, and so I have justified it and filed the moment somewhere in my learnings. I decide how I feel about things and my experiences; sure there is sadness and disappointment. However I choose to be grateful and feel loved, adored and wanted. That is a better place to resonate from. And that is what I choose. Feeling overwhelmed with emotions and stuck in the moment does not help me move on; in fact it does the complete o...

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When we keep things inside that bother us, we tend to ruminate about the finer details and how it makes us feel. This can lead to feeling inadequate, unsupported, misunderstood, unloved and if you find yourself maintaining a straight face that shows to the world that you are ‘ fine’ and ‘ok’ then this article is for you! You see if you do not air your issues, you just keep burying them into the depth of your being you will generate dis-ease in your body. Especially if this is your way of coping with the knocks of life and being in relationships. Not one relationship is smooth sailing, (unless one is in full control and the other is compliant). Better I make myself clear: No one healthy relationship is smooth sailing. They all require work, love, attention, communication, trust and respect. So if you are just keeping it bottled in then you will eventually have to explode to let the air out! If you come to this explosive end, you may likely completely loose it and then suffer the c...

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