If you’ve ever been to a personal development seminar then you’ll know that you that you can sit there for hours and be interested in what the presenter has to say yet still be thinking about what you have to make for dinner, or where you’re going to be tomorrow. Unfortunately life is just so busy these days that even your thoughts are multi-tasking. Then, out of the blue this presenter will make a passing comment (often not even related to the topic) that actually hits you for six! Yes, that ah-ha moment (aka the ‘lightbulb’ moment) is when you suddenly gain instant clarity (and stillness of mind!). So I had one of these moments the other day when I was at Roger Hamilton’s Wealth Dynamics Seminar. And all it was that he said was: “don’t be on someone else’s journey!” That was it … don’t be on someone else’s journey. It wasn’t even to do with wealth! How many times have people told you to do what YOU want to do? My guess is hundreds of times. Yet if you’re like most of us, you get so...

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On my way to the office today I walked past a homeless man whose sign read 'please give me a coffee and croissant, I haven't eaten breakfast today'. Well guess what? He got his coffee and croissant! (lesson # 1: Ask and you shall receive). As I sat there chatting to him I learned he worked 5 hour shifts, his friend J covered the other 5, he earned about $30 a day and he had just had his pension cut off because of a mix up with an address (he lives on the streets mainly). What struck me most, was that although he was -less a home (so to speak) he was happy. Why? Because he had certainty (he knew he had a place to sit everyday where he could make money without fear of being kicked out - he went on to explain how political the street world could get and that he had a good patch), connection (during the 10mins I was there at least 3 different people came up to have a chat with him) and a sense of belonging to a group or purpose (maintaining spirits high despite the injustices of bureaucra...

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As I sip on my Lindt hot chocolate at the Lindt cafe in Martin place I am reminded of a place, far away: rue de la confederation, Geneve. The home of the intoxicating Swiss chocolate, other tasty treats and precision machines. We love the finer things in life, good food, creamy chocolates that melt in your mouth, full-bodied wine, sexy, beautiful clothes and the wonderful trimmings in our everyday life. This is the motivator for us to get those ‘luxury items’ and have prestige. This reflects every area in our lives from work to personal relationships. We need to feel in control of our lives and often times pick partners that are not really on the same wavelength as us, why do we do that? Ah yes we see what we want to see and we filter the rest. We focus on what we want in that person to be, like “he is tall and good looking” and in our minds we have created that perfect mate. However reality it’s different isn’t it? The things we have ignored start to surface. “He is not mature enoug...

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“Whether you think that you can or that you can’t, you’re right” - Henry Ford * Have you ever wondered why someone else is always the one to get the promotion or the pay rise and yet you don’t think they’re any better than you? Have you ever wondered why you set a goal but for some reason you just can’t achieve it or something goes wrong to sabotage it just before you reach your goal? These are just two of the things that can happen when your internal language is not in harmony with what you want to achieve. If your unconscious is busy telling you “I can’t…..” or “I’ll fail…..” or “I’m not good enough……” or “I’m afraid……” or “I don’t deserve it……” then it’s likely that you will not achieve what you want because you have already embedded in your mind the belief that you will not succeed. Sometimes we build up these beliefs on the basis of past performance and then make the excuse to ourselves because we failed once, we will always fail. One thing that Thomas Edison knew was that ma...

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Don’t you just love it when you buy a piece of clothing that just fits? Snug in all the right places and comfortable to wear. How good is it, that it not only feels right it also looks great! Do you notice that this goes for any area of your life? That when something feels right, it shines right through and people notice. When something is going well you’re on top of the world. So what happens when the item doesn’t fit (or things aren’t going so well)? How does the non-fit (or issue at hand) make you feel? Do you buy it anyway? How long do you keep (feeling) it? Back in the good old days we’d go to a tailor to fix it. Nowadays we also have the option to look for a better fit elsewhere. You too have that choice. When something just doesn’t fit – into your lifestyle, with your plans, your environment, in accordance with your values – or has stopped fitting, you can go out and get yourself something that does! One other thing to consider, will you know your fit when you see it? Or will it...

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It isn’t enough that society places so much pressure on us to excel in every area our lives, but when we add our own expectations to the mix, we can really be setting ourselves up for disappointment. There are so many pressures on us as young women that the reality is we can become so overwhelmed that despite our achievements we are never happy with our results. So what does it mean to be “happy” and “guilt free”? Happiness is often mistaken as being successful which can be superficially measured by how many friends we have on Facebook, how exciting we are as lovers, whether or not we’re wearing next season’s fashions now and the amount of money we hint at but never admit to having. But this isn’t happiness – happiness is the result of getting our natural human needs in just the right balance. So what are those needs? – simply put we need to give and receive love, contribute to others’ lives and to society, have variety in our own lives, feel that we’re important, experience growth a...

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I find it amusing that on a relaxing weekend away to the Blue Mountains with some of my closest friends, our discussion inevitably leads from catching up on our recent successes to what we have identified as our generation‘s greatest curse - Opportunity Overload. In a place ideal for reflection and introspection, the frustration of living in a generation that has the world at its finger tips is ironically raised in the one location we have all taken refuge to get away from said world. And it’s not the first time our concerns have been raised. The ‘light bulb’ moment first came several years ago and was met with certain scorn towards our parent’s generation (commonly known as the Baby Boomers) for raising our expectations of what we can achieve with our lives. Whilst not ungrateful for the amazing opportunities we have been given, it’s the confusion that comes with it and that internal struggle for some sort of direction that has us worried. So why are we so concerned? We’re all educa...

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What do you really want in life? It’s interesting we go through the school system wanting what others have, so we can fit in and not be considered different from anybody, not to stand out. Then as we hit our adolescent years we grasp the concepts of individuality and standing out, through our actions, behaviors and the clothes we wear, the people we hang out with. By the time we are in our late teens/twenties we are thinking either about university our life career, traveling the world for a year or simply as some young adults do these days go down the path of discontentment, blaming their families for their state, get involved with drugs and or crime and often times start their own family and the pattern repeats itself. So when do we consciously create out our future destiny? It gets shaped at various points in our lives and its NEVER too late to get on a different path. Age is relative; happiness is whatever we make it. That is the beauty about being the master of your destiny, when ...

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