Love and Connection

Photo by Krysta Larson

Today I felt a bit lost and lonely, we had family and friends around us since mid October and yesterday we all headed off to the airport to bid them farewell. My in-laws had become so integrated into our routines that I felt vacant and sad all day, the low lying clouds adding to this mood. Strange you get so used to having people around, interacting, sharing stories and having their energy fill your home.

We all enjoyed their company especially their 11 month grand-daughter she was so happy to play, get taken out for walks, and to hang out with her oma and opa. I enjoyed the break, to do other duties and to write uninterrupted, it was bliss.

Having love and connection fills your heart and makes you realize that it is not just about you, you are part of a tribe that share common interests and take care of children together. There is something to be said about sharing the gearing of children, having the extended family close by and having conversations that matter.

I know in my culture extended families are the norm, yet in Australia and other western countries the grand-parents become a burden and do not live with their children. I find this a sad fate, considering that they have so much to contribute and they need to feel a sense of belonging and significance.

I guess that is a two sided affair as I also know some parents that just want to have time to retire in peace and not be the babysitter/cook.

I will miss them. Only now do I appreciate them more, what they gave us and what wonderful memories we have. I just need to see the photos and smile.