Let's Be Real

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Last night a friend was telling me about her discussion with her boss, it went something like this:

I know you are intelligent

And you know I am intelligent

So let’s just be real and tell it how it is..

And they discussed issues pertinent to her team and the stresses that they were all working under. It was an honest open discourse and she felt good about just laying it on the table and he felt enlighten about what was going on.

Being real is not as difficult as it first appears you just need to be prepared to be honest and be ready for the other person to be as honest in return. I remember many years ago I had this type of talk with an ex boyfriend and he told me all the things he didn’t like about me including my physical features! I guess I wasn’t looking for this type of honesty, but I invited it so I should have been more prepared.

When you are authentic you have no hidden agenda as you speak your truth, sometimes this can cause conflict as you need to be a little bit more subtle or diplomatic to ensure the other party does not feel uncomfortable, however saying that how they react and feel is out of your control so you cannot preempt how they will react. So be yourself and be real.

These types of conversations can be the hardest to have as you speak about how you feel and you show your vulnerability, you are open and raw, yet this is how you need to be to really connect with someone and be in alignment with your values and beliefs. Anything else is just a watered down version with a hidden intent, and open to interpretation as this is just a partial message. And as we all know this can be misunderstood and turned around. So you want to be clear and follow through with what you really need to say, holding back will not server you.