Posted on Tuesday, August 18 2009 by
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Why do people stay in relationships which make them unhappy? I ask myself this as lately this theme just keeps coming up. I guess the fear of being alone comes up, and the fact that this is all they know, even if this relationship is toxic and is dysfunctional. This is a certainty even if you get angry and feel depleted you want out but cannot muster the energy and the resources to walk away….
You live under the same roof yet you are miles away mentally and physically, you just stay in this hoping that they will change their ways….
Well no matter how much you want them to change and fulfill your needs they may not. You cannot control them. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness otherwise you just mirror each other and this is why you feel so down. You need to nurture yourself and protect yourself.
Do something about it; after all you deserve to be happy don’t you? You are the master of your own destiny so how much more pain are you willing to feel before you decide to move on?
If it hasn’t already this will affect your health, you may not sleep so well and your mind is exhausted. You are a waking zombie.
Your relationship is showing come cracks, you have trust issues and thus the foundation of this relationship is on a shaky ground. It is about to tumble, so it is time to really see your reality. The problem will not go away. If nothing changes the situation will get worse.
You deserve to improve your quality of life and find happiness. It starts with you, having accountability, respecting yourself and letting go.