Stepping up for success

WHAT DOES MAKING A MISTAKE MEAN TO YOU?
Success doesn’t mean you always succeed and never fail. It means you learn from every experience and make every experience work for you in some way.

Give yourself permission to make mistakes. If we attempt to avoid mistakes we avoid what we need to learn, if we avoid what we need to learn we avoid personal growth. If you have the belief that you cannot experience failure, it gives you much more freedom to be willing to play, explore, learn and grow. Everything that happens is simply feedback, it’s a means of monitoring our behaviour, attitude, actions, to make finer distinctions and do it differently next time.

Most of us see an error, every mistake as emotional baggage, a failure. It reflects badly on us. Are you beating yourself up with negative self talk - I am hopeless, why me, I cant do it – can you begin to imagine what that does to your confidence? How about more supportive questions, ones that are really going to stretch you and give your more choices, such as what’s the gift in this? what have I learned about myself? How can I turn this around? . What would be different for you if you didnt take mistakes personally? If something makes you gulp you are ready for it otherwise it wouldnt have presented itself to you. Be willing to give it a go, confidence comes with consistent action..remember its never as bad as you thought it might be.

What is it you need to let go of to allow everything to be feedback?

Success is the result of good judgement
Good judgment is the result of experience
Experience is often the result of bad judgement
No failure only feedback

ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR LIFE?
The only thing we have 100% control of is ourselves. You are accountable for your life good or bad successful or not, happy or sad, fair or unfair - you own your life. You are accountable, you will always be accountable. Accepting this means you no longer deflect responsibility for the results you are getting. As an adult you have choices in how you experience your life, letting go of blame and excuses and the meaning given to events of your past. Accepting your role in lifes problems and acknowledging your accountability means you have control of how you feel about those challenges as they arise. Take it one step up, you are the only one who has control about how you feel about you – the choice is yours.

What thoughts, behaviours and choices can you change to get a different result?

Accountable = responsible (not blame)