The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.  The quality of the relationship that you have with yourself will determine the quality of relationship that you have with other areas of your life i.e. health, finances, relationships, career, emotions and spirituality.   It is vital therefore that you be a ‘best friend’ to yourself. Being a ‘best friend’ to yourself allows you to receive goodness in your life.   When we have a poor relationship with ourselves and we don’t feel good about the person we are, we choose behaviours that self-sabotage and ‘shut the gates’ to happiness and success entering our life.   So, what are some ways that you can proactively nourish the relationship that you have with yourself. The following are some suggestions.   Love Who You Are   Be happy with and love the person that you are. Remind yourself and focus daily on your positive qualities, strengths, achievements and positive comments ...

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Don’t Believe All Your Thoughts! I have come to see over the years of supporting people create the life they want that one of the biggest obstacles to changing your life can be your thoughts. As soon as you decide on a change up surge all the limiting thoughts beliefs and decisions you have made about yourself, the world, the employment market, anything to do with your career, your relationships, what you can and can’t do, any limitation you can come up with.   A while ago one client I had said the most powerful thing she had learnt through coaching was not to believe her thoughts! I recently went on a nine-day retreat called The School of The Work with Byron Katie and it was all about questioning any thought that gave you stress.  It is a simple process and you can find out about it on her website. (www.thework.com)  It is basically four questions that ask you to question the validity of the thought, what believing the thought does to you and how it governs how ...

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Passion, The Signpost to a Fulfilled Life Passion is such a buzzword right now, so many times I have people come and say to me, if I only knew what my passion was I could change my life and be happy.  It is like they are some big secret, something that is hidden from them that if they could only see everything would be great. Having specifically worked with passions for a while now I have to reveal a secret – your passions are not something that are hidden away from you, something to be discovered that you haven’t previously allowed yourself to see.  One person I was talking with said that when she wrote down her passions nothing new came to mind.  How could it?  We can only be passionate about what we know, or we think we know, we want.  You can’t be passionate about something you don’t know.  But you can, and many people are, not be focused on your passions or even dismiss them because they are so obvious. When I work with clients who want to make cha...

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Communication can be confusing and often times can lead to misunderstandings, especially if you only communicate via email. Words do not have intonation, like in the spoken tongue. Even if you are specific there is room for interpretation. That is why if you can speak on the phone or in person that gives you the entire picture, as you get a feeling for what the caller is conveying to you. Just the other day one of my clients emailed me; naturally I responded however it would have been better if we spoke about her situation as emailing was just one dimensional in my opinion. I attempted to cover as much as I could yet; if we could clarify on the phone then the response would have been more tailored to her needs. You find examples of vague communication all over the place, this is so you fill in the blanks with your own interpretation and this way the blanket message covers a wider audience. Billboards, slogans and even on television you will find some kind of ambiguity in the...

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