Pay attention and be aware of the type of questions that you find yourself using. The questions that you ask yourself can either be helpful or detrimental. It is important to focus on asking helping questions. It is unfortunate that the majority of people unwittingly ask themselves questions that keep them stuck in life’s challenges. They ask themselves questions that dwell on the problem, lay blame and reinforce negatives. I term them ‘Stuck’ questions because they don’t allow you to move forward and overcome the challenges. Have you ever asked yourself these types of questions? “Why does this always happen to me?” “Why can’t I do anything right?” “What is wrong with me?” “Who is to blame for this?” “Why doesn’t anybody like me?” I’m sure you have. We are all guilty of asking ourselves these types of questions. The problem occurs for us when we spend most of our time asking these types of questions. You really do not want the answers to t...

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Don’t you just love it when you still learn something new about your partner/husband, even though you’ve been together for so long! The other day I was having a conversation with my other half about friendship and our respective circle of friends (with particular reference to why he regards certain school friends as more “my friends” and not “his friends”.) The fact that we have both known them equally for 15 years doesn’t sway him to my rationale that they are “our friends”. As far as he is concerned his circle is full at the moment... We always say we need to get out of our comfort zone (and he would be the first to agree that that is an area that he could work on) but sometimes we also need to pull back on ourselves and be realistic. His reason for not taking on “more friends” - he can’t even look after the ones he’s got! Why should he stretch himself to the point where he can’t maintain a decent friendship with anyone? I’m using the analogy of friendship for shock value (for the ...

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With modern society we are becoming more flexible to change, we reinvent our wardrobes to suit the occasion, we renovate our homes with the newest exotic home wares and we even change careers to suit our lifestyles. Change is everywhere, if you don’t like it you get left behind. It is that simple. Life changes when we see that the old way will not cut it anymore, we need to think ahead and plan our lives being proactive in approach. Life changes can be forecasted or we can be surprised, either way we adapt to our new circumstances. Often times people see this in a reactive way and their defenses go up, there is resistance and they say ‘”I don’t see that working, why change it?”. Life has surprises no matter how well we organize and plan it. I heard a story of this wonderful man who had a one night stand. The lady he was with got pregnant and he left his girlfriend which he adored, to be with the mother of his child. They got married and he has regretted it ever since. Eventually the...

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