Whilst at the grocery checkout I overheard a lady saying on the mobile “why do I keep doing this? And ‘never again will I act this way with men?” I empathized with her as a few years ago I was that woman (well perhaps not on the mobile spilling out my private life!) . I too had created patterns around my ‘future partners’ and kept repeating those patterns until I sorted out my own needs. Then I finally broke my non-serving ways. We all have patterns of behaviors and some are conscious and some are not, we just do and often we are driven emotionally to do something without really realizing the consequences or impact on our future decisions. Like taking a main highway we have this road all mapped out in our minds and body so it just happens.. Until we say ‘never again’. Once we recognize this we are on the road to awareness and change and like any habit, we need to replace it with something else, more productive and constructive. That is the key, if you change this habit and this too d...

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Today I felt a bit lost and lonely, we had family and friends around us since mid October and yesterday we all headed off to the airport to bid them farewell. My in-laws had become so integrated into our routines that I felt vacant and sad all day, the low lying clouds adding to this mood. Strange you get so used to having people around, interacting, sharing stories and having their energy fill your home. We all enjoyed their company especially their 11 month grand-daughter she was so happy to play, get taken out for walks, and to hang out with her oma and opa. I enjoyed the break, to do other duties and to write uninterrupted, it was bliss. Having love and connection fills your heart and makes you realize that it is not just about you, you are part of a tribe that share common interests and take care of children together. There is something to be said about sharing the gearing of children, having the extended family close by and having conversations that matter. I know in my cultur...

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Last night a friend was telling me about her discussion with her boss, it went something like this: I know you are intelligent And you know I am intelligent So let’s just be real and tell it how it is.. And they discussed issues pertinent to her team and the stresses that they were all working under. It was an honest open discourse and she felt good about just laying it on the table and he felt enlighten about what was going on. Being real is not as difficult as it first appears you just need to be prepared to be honest and be ready for the other person to be as honest in return. I remember many years ago I had this type of talk with an ex boyfriend and he told me all the things he didn’t like about me including my physical features! I guess I wasn’t looking for this type of honesty, but I invited it so I should have been more prepared. When you are authentic you have no hidden agenda as you speak your truth, sometimes this can cause conflict as you need to be a little bit more s...

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Sometimes change is thrown at us and we need to react, quickly. I clearly remember the time we had just settled in our new apartment, our lives were going well and we had an overseas trip organized. Perfect no surprises then one day we get a letter from our rental agency giving us notice to move as the landlord was wanting to move back in! We had only a few weeks to do all this in as we had committed to our overseas trip and paid for the flights. Two short weeks, needless to say the feeling of madness was upon us alright. Change here we come… In life we often get turbulence during our perfect flight. In moments like these we need to practice behavioral flexibility and remain calm. Easier said than done for an organized Arian who needs control and planning! After the initial shock we calmed down and got into action mode, it was all going to work out that was our mind-set and we had a clear picture of what needed to happen with Swiss precision. Change moves you into a new reality, so y...

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