How you respond to undesirable events and situations in your life will greatly influence the direction that it takes. The Oxford Dictionary defines response as a ‘feeling, movement or change caused by a stimulus or influence’. So, how is your life feeling, moving or being changed by stimulus or influences?  What direction are your responses taking you? Your responses to events in your life are critical in shaping your future. Many times in life we encounter situations that we have little or no control over. However, one thing that we do have total control over is our response to these situations. It is important to realise that you do have a choice as to how you respond. How you choose to respond is totally up to you. You can choose to respond in a way that serves you or hurts you. The fact that you can choose your response allows you to take charge and stay in control. Isn’t that great to know? No longer do you have to feel that you have no control. You do!! When you ...

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Do you find yourself reacting at life? You know things just happen and you just do. You need to organize the meals, shopping, activities for the family, plus you have work you need to bring home plus organize holidays, prepare meals in advance. You are just operating at what life throws you, and you wonder how you will find the time to get some down time. Having down time means you can recharge and breathe in the minute. Well life may give you 30 minutes to yourself it is just that you need to get up ultra early to receive your reward. Welcome to modern living and so many of us are running this exact program.   Only today I was chasing my tail, my little baby is now almost 8 months and for us this means she takes less naps, and she wants more attention and structured play time. Whilst running a business from home and organizing healthy snacks and lunch plus the continual laundry (why did I opt to use cloth nappies, what was I thinking?) Life will never be the same again. And ...

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Why do people stay in relationships which make them unhappy? I ask myself this as lately this theme just keeps coming up. I guess the fear of being alone comes up, and the fact that this is all they know, even if this relationship is toxic and is dysfunctional. This is a certainty even if you get angry and feel depleted you want out but cannot muster the energy and the resources to walk away…. You live under the same roof yet you are miles away mentally and physically, you just stay in this hoping that they will change their ways….   Well no matter how much you want them to change and fulfill your needs they may not. You cannot control them. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness otherwise you just mirror each other and this is why you feel so down. You need to nurture yourself and protect yourself.   Do something about it; after all you deserve to be happy don’t you? You are the master of your own destiny so how much more pain are you willing to fee...

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It has been a while since I last wrote a post for our articles. This is something it has been on my mind for a while now. Firstly because I have been there before and secondly because I can see someone close to me being in a similar situation. Before I met my soul mate in my lovely wife, I had two very consuming long term relationships, which in the end made me very lonely. Looking back at them from where I am today, it makes me realize that I missed out on a lot of quality time with people that I love. The question I didn’t ask was: Is this relationship a two way street? , who is giving and who is taking in the relationship. There was one thing that kept me in both relationships and that was guilt. Yes I felt guilty and I was allowing my partners to play the guilt game with me. I want to make clear that I am not blaming my former partners for this, I allowed this to happen. I made myself feeling guilty and instead of standing up for myself I curled up and closed down to protect mys...

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I was reading the body & soul section in the Sunday Telegraph and read an article on beating depression naturally. This inspired me to write our own 10 Tips on beating the blues. It is easy to feel down and lethargic during times when things are not going to our plan. Life has a way of throwing unexpected turns and no matter how much we want control we just need to let go. Simple things can become huge in our minds and we become self-absorbed and stuck. Here are some tips on beating this state of mind.   1.   Stress Management: Studies have linked stress to multiple conditions and if you are feeling down, then minimize your stress levels. Hormones we excrete during periods of stress interfere with our brain chemistry and lead to sleep disturbance. So address this area(s) in your life to improve your state of mind. Work smarter not harder, this will help you reduce your stress and achieve more balance in your life.   2.   Exercise: When we exercis...

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Recently a client of mine achieved his major goal, it was huge and he needed to celebrate the occasion, yet he felt guilty about doing so as he knew many others were doing it tough and he didn’t want to appear like he was showing off!   Amazing isn’t it? How we value the opinions of others and this curbs our behaviour so we fit in and feel accepted. So many people play down their successes so not too stand out too much. Well I am here to say that you owe it to yourself to JUMP UP and really celebrate. You have done the work, manifested your desired outcome and overcame all those obstacles. You were focused and believed that this was yours to take. Even when things were stacked against you, you kept on your path, unwavering and unrelenting. Even after one failure after another you did not let that beat you. You are the captain of your ship. You accepted the natural laws of intention and positive thinking and guess what? IT WORKED!!   You made it so why become the shrinking vi...

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I was re-organising my emails when I came across an email sent to me by a dear friend.  I want to share this with you:  I printed this beautiful poem, laminated it and hung it up so I can read it daily, just so I won't forget...you may want to do the same... With love, Bianca     Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love.   I now allow this love to flow to the surface - It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied. The more love I use and give, the more I have to give - the supply is endless. The use of love makes me feel good. It is an expression of my inner joy. I love myself; therefore, I take loving care of my body. I lovingly feel it nourishing foods and beverages. I lovingly groom it and dress it, and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy. I love myself; therefore, I provide for myself a comfortable hom...

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Today I feel like sharing this beautiful poem based on affirmations: In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete.  I am one with the Power that created me.  I have within me all the ingredients for success.  I now allow the success formula to flow through me and manifest in my world.  Whatever I am guided to do will be a success.  I learn from every experience.  I go from success to success and from glory to glory.  My pathway is a series of stepping stones to ever greater successes.  All is well in my world.

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During the weekend my husbands’ laptop decided to take a break, and as it usually happens it was not a good time to have a software meltdown. So he spent the majority of the time reinstalling software and ensuring all worked for the next working day. This made me think about our own internal diagnostics and what do we do to self regulate.  We have people around us to keep us in check most of the time, we have our own internal self guidance system of our emotions and how the day runs for us. We have filtering systems and also expectations of our routine and these are habits we have formed over time..   So what happens when the program doesn’t work? Or we simply freeze in the moment because we have to make a decision and weigh up the pros and cons.   This is when our self diagnostics needs a re-boot of some kind. We are forced to look at the situation and really think about our self guidance and where it fits into our model of the world.   I will spare you the detail...

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Have you ever stopped to consider that the world you think you are living in is not actually what is going on? Let me explain. I wrote an email to a potential client the other day asking permission to gatecrash an event they were holding. It was a bold thing to do, but someone I trust had suggested I get in contact with them as they thought I might be able to add some value to the service they were offering in the future. I sent the mail and got on with my life.A week later and I was looking at my diary to discover that I had this event still pencilled in and another client pushing for the slot. I sent another email to the new client to see whether it was still appropriate for me to go. Nothing.With the event the following day and close of business fast approaching I managed to dig out a mobile number for the client using some deft googling skills. I wrote an SMS to her explaining my circumstances and hit send.I then had a flash of panic. I kind of 'Oh my, I think I overstepped the mar...

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