As the sun sets for another day, I marvel at the colors and how unique each sunset is, none are exactly the same with the cloud cover and light diminishing you get the feeling that the moment will last forever, just as it is about to disappear the crescendo hits. It is absolutely beautiful. It is easy to live each day, one at a time and just be. There is security in routine and there are no surprises. Yet we do need to move forward, otherwise we stop growing personally and professionally. That is the paradox, you stay the same you loose, you change something you are taking risks, becoming vulnerable and there are no guarantees. So you may loose there too. So when is it a good time to change? That is the magic question, with taking risks you are out on a limb, that is true and you may also feel: • Vulnerable • On your own • Nervous • Insecure • Anxious • Apprehensive You are on a new path and this leads you to the unknown these emotions are just temporary ...

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This topic comes up a lot for me lately, so I thought it would be appropriate to share my learnings and insights so you can gain some awareness and perhaps some new way of thinking. Just now I had a client cancel her first coaching session, interesting as yesterday she sounded like she wanted to talk about her relationship issues. After all she made the first step to book a coach, so from that act she was searching for help. Today it was a different story; she did not answer her phone on our designated appointment time. People want change then they bury their head in the sand. That is the way I see it, if you reach out for support and the hand is out extend for you then you must take it. This is the way forward. If you hesitate and pretend the issue is no longer, well who are you trying to convince? Facing your fears of the unknown or your simple truth needs to be faced. No matter how much hurt we feel and confusion about our affairs, if you want to move forward then you must acknowl...

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 It is so easy to put others first, after all we want to be liked and accepted so we try to fulfill others’ needs before our own. Mums are really good at this, taking care of the family and everyone is happy and cared for. This can leave little time for self-nurturing. And often you find that when you keep putting others first you tend to feel a tad neglected if someone is not taking care of you! Self love is about that ‘self’ you are responsible for your own happiness and if you expect others to meet this need then you are not looking within you are waiting for the external to make you happy. The ownership rests with you and self loving is a part of that. It is easy to live a reactive life, as things happen you react accordingly, kids misbehave and you are there to discipline. The house needs cleaning and so you put your cleaning gloves on. The garden needs weeding and there is another job for you over the weekend. Where does it stop? Actually this is your life and it gives you...

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Good things happen to other people, you see them on Sunday with their beautiful clothes, cars and families. They are having gelato at the corner café, all seem to be getting along famously. You wonder, ‘what a lucky woman, she seems to have it all’. Yes good things happen to others whilst you are simply struggling to find the right partner and hopefully one day have some good fortune. Can you believe that people actually think like this? They feel that they are not worthy or deserving of having such a reality?  Putting others on a pedestal just distances you from your ideal life. Making it appear so far away and unattainable. Well as a life coach I am here to tell you that you can be that lucky woman if you first of all, believe in yourself. It still surprises me how some women will under play their strengths so others can take the credit, they do not want to shine. They want to fly under the radar and just get by. Well with this attitude how on earth are you going to attract th...

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The ability to be courageous is a very important attribute to have in life. To be victorious and successful in life we need courage. It allows us to go beyond our fears and take necessary action. Courage is the act of doing what is necessary despite the presence of negative mental obstacles i.e. fear, doubt, worry etc. Without courage we remain stuck in our lives. We can’t see a way past the ‘brick walls’. Progress in life is built on the back of courage. By being courageous we: break through our comfort zones and experience personal growth; persist when confronted with challenges; ask for help; remain true to ourselves and others; and achieve our goals and dreams. We are often confronted with circumstances that require us to do things that we prefer not to do because they may be difficult, scary, uncomfortable, awkward etc. We have all been in those situations. The critical choice that we have to make during these situations is whether ...

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It is easy to focus on what we don’t have, as we set goals we are working towards obtaining new experiences as we have yet to have this in our reality. I used to be like this when I was single all I thought about was being in a relationship and focusing on what was missing in my life, I compared myself to others who in my opinion seemed to have it all, loving partner, children, lovely home and all the trimmings. Yes I know this was not very positive on my behalf and this did not bring it closer to me, I just saw the ‘lack’ in my life my inadequacies and short-comings. No wonder my confidence levels were at an all time low. With this mind-set how was I going to attract my life partner and turn my life around? Many people today live this reality they just keep wishing and hope things will improve without changing their thought processes. Time to upgrade your attitude and feel rich and fulfilled in your current reality. Simply feel grateful for what you already have in your life, start ...

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Do you ever feel like you start a million projects at once and then end up overwhelmed at the enormity of the task you have set up for yourself? Yes I can, I am living this at the present moment, my to do list seems to stretch out for miles and all I can manage are the basics, domestics, taking care of our 9 month old and then sporadic emails between her nap time or whilst she plays at my feet. I want to do more much more in my day; I want to balance this out with creativity, writing contributing to others and focusing on my online business. Yet this is not meant to be, well not in the last few weeks. I pride myself in completing tasks; this gives me so much satisfaction and a sense of completion. So when I find myself with some precious time, I start 5 things instead of one and then run myself ragged at trying to finish them all, what a chaotic way of being. Totally counter-productive. I know I can do so much more and I need to feel the flow, yet somehow the flow is lost, buried de...

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I am inspired to write about moving on from the old to the new, as I am surrounded by boxes and see empty shelves and what is still left to do. You see we shall move home this Friday to our new bigger place and I have mixed emotions. Excited about the novelty, the new surroundings, exploring local parks, shops and making new connections. On the other hand right now we are a stones’ throw away from all the shops and a quick walk to the beach. Plus in this home we became a family and such wonderful memories of bringing our baby home, changing the apartment to suit our little princess. Alas they are all wonderful memories. So when we move from the old to the new we can be apprehensive as we need to let go of our routine and what we know, this makes place for the new and the growth. You can relate this to not just a physical move you can also apply this to relationships, career, health issues and any personal development. You move on and get on with exploring your boundaries If you are i...

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For people who really are organized and structured this may come to a surprise to them, for those who just go with the flow and are truly present in the moment, they are onto something.. You see being in the now can be challenging for some especially if the current climate is chaotic to say the least. When you are busy putting things in their place you are forward, future focused as you have a picture in your mind of how things should look like and you see the mess all around you. This gives you meaning and significance as you hurriedly make changes to alter the room, place or situation. In contrast if you are totally present in whatever activity you actually are not concerned about the external environment and how that looks you are absorbed in the doing. Some say well I am organized and in the now, well it may appear so yet you are looking at the external and future projecting at how you can alter this, and perhaps there is a deeper issue to look at and resolve rather than just the...

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During my usual Thursday night yoga class I was inspired. Paul the teacher gives a great class and often has many words of wisdom, this night he spoke about the spaces between words, which:  gives the meaning as otherwise words would just ramble one after the other without pause. How can the space have meaning? I thought. Well for me this has more than a literal meaning as with anything that touches me these days I see a deeper perspective. When we pause we are, we are still in that moment and we learn. If we do not take that pause/break/space then we just do and what is the meaning or purpose for doing that? Surely the space gives us reflection Perspective Time to absorb To ask WHY? To reason and ponder To collect our thoughts and appreciate the now So for me the space is vital in everyday living, to really be in that moment whatever that is and to engage 100 percent in that activity. The space also allows us to feel liberated as we are not cluttered in our thoughts and i...

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