I am inspired to write about moving on from the old to the new, as I am surrounded by boxes and see empty shelves and what is still left to do. You see we shall move home this Friday to our new bigger place and I have mixed emotions. Excited about the novelty, the new surroundings, exploring local parks, shops and making new connections. On the other hand right now we are a stones’ throw away from all the shops and a quick walk to the beach. Plus in this home we became a family and such wonderful memories of bringing our baby home, changing the apartment to suit our little princess. Alas they are all wonderful memories. So when we move from the old to the new we can be apprehensive as we need to let go of our routine and what we know, this makes place for the new and the growth. You can relate this to not just a physical move you can also apply this to relationships, career, health issues and any personal development. You move on and get on with exploring your boundaries If you are i...

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For people who really are organized and structured this may come to a surprise to them, for those who just go with the flow and are truly present in the moment, they are onto something.. You see being in the now can be challenging for some especially if the current climate is chaotic to say the least. When you are busy putting things in their place you are forward, future focused as you have a picture in your mind of how things should look like and you see the mess all around you. This gives you meaning and significance as you hurriedly make changes to alter the room, place or situation. In contrast if you are totally present in whatever activity you actually are not concerned about the external environment and how that looks you are absorbed in the doing. Some say well I am organized and in the now, well it may appear so yet you are looking at the external and future projecting at how you can alter this, and perhaps there is a deeper issue to look at and resolve rather than just the...

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During my usual Thursday night yoga class I was inspired. Paul the teacher gives a great class and often has many words of wisdom, this night he spoke about the spaces between words, which:  gives the meaning as otherwise words would just ramble one after the other without pause. How can the space have meaning? I thought. Well for me this has more than a literal meaning as with anything that touches me these days I see a deeper perspective. When we pause we are, we are still in that moment and we learn. If we do not take that pause/break/space then we just do and what is the meaning or purpose for doing that? Surely the space gives us reflection Perspective Time to absorb To ask WHY? To reason and ponder To collect our thoughts and appreciate the now So for me the space is vital in everyday living, to really be in that moment whatever that is and to engage 100 percent in that activity. The space also allows us to feel liberated as we are not cluttered in our thoughts and i...

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I was reading the Sunday paper, it’s our ritual on a lazy Sunday morning, and I came across an article that really highlighted some areas that many of my clients have issues with and to be completely honest with you we too to some degree.  People who horde stuff everywhere in their home and in some chronic cases they have surrounded themselves with stuff that they only see the passage to the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom. Amazing to even phantom such a state! Well we are not alone, according to a report by the Australian Institute entitled Stuff Happens: Unused Things Cluttering Up our Homes, 88 per cent of Australian homes have at least one room full of trash-slash-treasure. And also interesting is that four out of ten Australians find themselves feeling anxious, guilty or depressed about the amount of disorder in their homes sometimes going to extraordinary lengths to deal with it. Like moving house, adding rooms, even purchasing more stuff like storage containers to accommodate...

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How you respond to undesirable events and situations in your life will greatly influence the direction that it takes. The Oxford Dictionary defines response as a ‘feeling, movement or change caused by a stimulus or influence’. So, how is your life feeling, moving or being changed by stimulus or influences?  What direction are your responses taking you? Your responses to events in your life are critical in shaping your future. Many times in life we encounter situations that we have little or no control over. However, one thing that we do have total control over is our response to these situations. It is important to realise that you do have a choice as to how you respond. How you choose to respond is totally up to you. You can choose to respond in a way that serves you or hurts you. The fact that you can choose your response allows you to take charge and stay in control. Isn’t that great to know? No longer do you have to feel that you have no control. You do!! When you ...

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Do you find yourself reacting at life? You know things just happen and you just do. You need to organize the meals, shopping, activities for the family, plus you have work you need to bring home plus organize holidays, prepare meals in advance. You are just operating at what life throws you, and you wonder how you will find the time to get some down time. Having down time means you can recharge and breathe in the minute. Well life may give you 30 minutes to yourself it is just that you need to get up ultra early to receive your reward. Welcome to modern living and so many of us are running this exact program.   Only today I was chasing my tail, my little baby is now almost 8 months and for us this means she takes less naps, and she wants more attention and structured play time. Whilst running a business from home and organizing healthy snacks and lunch plus the continual laundry (why did I opt to use cloth nappies, what was I thinking?) Life will never be the same again. And ...

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Why do people stay in relationships which make them unhappy? I ask myself this as lately this theme just keeps coming up. I guess the fear of being alone comes up, and the fact that this is all they know, even if this relationship is toxic and is dysfunctional. This is a certainty even if you get angry and feel depleted you want out but cannot muster the energy and the resources to walk away…. You live under the same roof yet you are miles away mentally and physically, you just stay in this hoping that they will change their ways….   Well no matter how much you want them to change and fulfill your needs they may not. You cannot control them. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness otherwise you just mirror each other and this is why you feel so down. You need to nurture yourself and protect yourself.   Do something about it; after all you deserve to be happy don’t you? You are the master of your own destiny so how much more pain are you willing to fee...

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It has been a while since I last wrote a post for our articles. This is something it has been on my mind for a while now. Firstly because I have been there before and secondly because I can see someone close to me being in a similar situation. Before I met my soul mate in my lovely wife, I had two very consuming long term relationships, which in the end made me very lonely. Looking back at them from where I am today, it makes me realize that I missed out on a lot of quality time with people that I love. The question I didn’t ask was: Is this relationship a two way street? , who is giving and who is taking in the relationship. There was one thing that kept me in both relationships and that was guilt. Yes I felt guilty and I was allowing my partners to play the guilt game with me. I want to make clear that I am not blaming my former partners for this, I allowed this to happen. I made myself feeling guilty and instead of standing up for myself I curled up and closed down to protect mys...

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I was reading the body & soul section in the Sunday Telegraph and read an article on beating depression naturally. This inspired me to write our own 10 Tips on beating the blues. It is easy to feel down and lethargic during times when things are not going to our plan. Life has a way of throwing unexpected turns and no matter how much we want control we just need to let go. Simple things can become huge in our minds and we become self-absorbed and stuck. Here are some tips on beating this state of mind.   1.   Stress Management: Studies have linked stress to multiple conditions and if you are feeling down, then minimize your stress levels. Hormones we excrete during periods of stress interfere with our brain chemistry and lead to sleep disturbance. So address this area(s) in your life to improve your state of mind. Work smarter not harder, this will help you reduce your stress and achieve more balance in your life.   2.   Exercise: When we exercis...

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Recently a client of mine achieved his major goal, it was huge and he needed to celebrate the occasion, yet he felt guilty about doing so as he knew many others were doing it tough and he didn’t want to appear like he was showing off!   Amazing isn’t it? How we value the opinions of others and this curbs our behaviour so we fit in and feel accepted. So many people play down their successes so not too stand out too much. Well I am here to say that you owe it to yourself to JUMP UP and really celebrate. You have done the work, manifested your desired outcome and overcame all those obstacles. You were focused and believed that this was yours to take. Even when things were stacked against you, you kept on your path, unwavering and unrelenting. Even after one failure after another you did not let that beat you. You are the captain of your ship. You accepted the natural laws of intention and positive thinking and guess what? IT WORKED!!   You made it so why become the shrinking vi...

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