Last night a friend was telling me about her discussion with her boss, it went something like this: I know you are intelligent And you know I am intelligent So let’s just be real and tell it how it is.. And they discussed issues pertinent to her team and the stresses that they were all working under. It was an honest open discourse and she felt good about just laying it on the table and he felt enlighten about what was going on. Being real is not as difficult as it first appears you just need to be prepared to be honest and be ready for the other person to be as honest in return. I remember many years ago I had this type of talk with an ex boyfriend and he told me all the things he didn’t like about me including my physical features! I guess I wasn’t looking for this type of honesty, but I invited it so I should have been more prepared. When you are authentic you have no hidden agenda as you speak your truth, sometimes this can cause conflict as you need to be a little bit more s...

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Sometimes change is thrown at us and we need to react, quickly. I clearly remember the time we had just settled in our new apartment, our lives were going well and we had an overseas trip organized. Perfect no surprises then one day we get a letter from our rental agency giving us notice to move as the landlord was wanting to move back in! We had only a few weeks to do all this in as we had committed to our overseas trip and paid for the flights. Two short weeks, needless to say the feeling of madness was upon us alright. Change here we come… In life we often get turbulence during our perfect flight. In moments like these we need to practice behavioral flexibility and remain calm. Easier said than done for an organized Arian who needs control and planning! After the initial shock we calmed down and got into action mode, it was all going to work out that was our mind-set and we had a clear picture of what needed to happen with Swiss precision. Change moves you into a new reality, so y...

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Where did the year go? It feels like yesterday that we send out our last Christmas cards and now we are in  November already and Christmas is around the corner . This is the perfect time to get in touch with people that you feel close to and also with people you want to keep in touch with. We at Click A Life Coach use this very effectively to keep in touch with past and existing clients. Plus our service providers that have given us excellent service. Before last Christmas we were sending out electronic Christmas cards to everyone and handwritten cards to a selected group of customers. We received great feedback about the handwritten cards, but no feedback whatsoever for electronic greeting cards. After looking at my Spam Folder, this didn’t surprise me. Just before Christmas or any of the big holidays, the number of greeting cards that I receive multiplies by 50. None of them is legitimate, all is Spam. I actually stopped looking at anything that says greeting card. I am sure I a...

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As the sun sets for another day, I marvel at the colors and how unique each sunset is, none are exactly the same with the cloud cover and light diminishing you get the feeling that the moment will last forever, just as it is about to disappear the crescendo hits. It is absolutely beautiful. It is easy to live each day, one at a time and just be. There is security in routine and there are no surprises. Yet we do need to move forward, otherwise we stop growing personally and professionally. That is the paradox, you stay the same you loose, you change something you are taking risks, becoming vulnerable and there are no guarantees. So you may loose there too. So when is it a good time to change? That is the magic question, with taking risks you are out on a limb, that is true and you may also feel: • Vulnerable • On your own • Nervous • Insecure • Anxious • Apprehensive You are on a new path and this leads you to the unknown these emotions are just temporary ...

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This topic comes up a lot for me lately, so I thought it would be appropriate to share my learnings and insights so you can gain some awareness and perhaps some new way of thinking. Just now I had a client cancel her first coaching session, interesting as yesterday she sounded like she wanted to talk about her relationship issues. After all she made the first step to book a coach, so from that act she was searching for help. Today it was a different story; she did not answer her phone on our designated appointment time. People want change then they bury their head in the sand. That is the way I see it, if you reach out for support and the hand is out extend for you then you must take it. This is the way forward. If you hesitate and pretend the issue is no longer, well who are you trying to convince? Facing your fears of the unknown or your simple truth needs to be faced. No matter how much hurt we feel and confusion about our affairs, if you want to move forward then you must acknowl...

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 It is so easy to put others first, after all we want to be liked and accepted so we try to fulfill others’ needs before our own. Mums are really good at this, taking care of the family and everyone is happy and cared for. This can leave little time for self-nurturing. And often you find that when you keep putting others first you tend to feel a tad neglected if someone is not taking care of you! Self love is about that ‘self’ you are responsible for your own happiness and if you expect others to meet this need then you are not looking within you are waiting for the external to make you happy. The ownership rests with you and self loving is a part of that. It is easy to live a reactive life, as things happen you react accordingly, kids misbehave and you are there to discipline. The house needs cleaning and so you put your cleaning gloves on. The garden needs weeding and there is another job for you over the weekend. Where does it stop? Actually this is your life and it gives you...

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Good things happen to other people, you see them on Sunday with their beautiful clothes, cars and families. They are having gelato at the corner café, all seem to be getting along famously. You wonder, ‘what a lucky woman, she seems to have it all’. Yes good things happen to others whilst you are simply struggling to find the right partner and hopefully one day have some good fortune. Can you believe that people actually think like this? They feel that they are not worthy or deserving of having such a reality?  Putting others on a pedestal just distances you from your ideal life. Making it appear so far away and unattainable. Well as a life coach I am here to tell you that you can be that lucky woman if you first of all, believe in yourself. It still surprises me how some women will under play their strengths so others can take the credit, they do not want to shine. They want to fly under the radar and just get by. Well with this attitude how on earth are you going to attract th...

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The ability to be courageous is a very important attribute to have in life. To be victorious and successful in life we need courage. It allows us to go beyond our fears and take necessary action. Courage is the act of doing what is necessary despite the presence of negative mental obstacles i.e. fear, doubt, worry etc. Without courage we remain stuck in our lives. We can’t see a way past the ‘brick walls’. Progress in life is built on the back of courage. By being courageous we: break through our comfort zones and experience personal growth; persist when confronted with challenges; ask for help; remain true to ourselves and others; and achieve our goals and dreams. We are often confronted with circumstances that require us to do things that we prefer not to do because they may be difficult, scary, uncomfortable, awkward etc. We have all been in those situations. The critical choice that we have to make during these situations is whether ...

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It is easy to focus on what we don’t have, as we set goals we are working towards obtaining new experiences as we have yet to have this in our reality. I used to be like this when I was single all I thought about was being in a relationship and focusing on what was missing in my life, I compared myself to others who in my opinion seemed to have it all, loving partner, children, lovely home and all the trimmings. Yes I know this was not very positive on my behalf and this did not bring it closer to me, I just saw the ‘lack’ in my life my inadequacies and short-comings. No wonder my confidence levels were at an all time low. With this mind-set how was I going to attract my life partner and turn my life around? Many people today live this reality they just keep wishing and hope things will improve without changing their thought processes. Time to upgrade your attitude and feel rich and fulfilled in your current reality. Simply feel grateful for what you already have in your life, start ...

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Do you ever feel like you start a million projects at once and then end up overwhelmed at the enormity of the task you have set up for yourself? Yes I can, I am living this at the present moment, my to do list seems to stretch out for miles and all I can manage are the basics, domestics, taking care of our 9 month old and then sporadic emails between her nap time or whilst she plays at my feet. I want to do more much more in my day; I want to balance this out with creativity, writing contributing to others and focusing on my online business. Yet this is not meant to be, well not in the last few weeks. I pride myself in completing tasks; this gives me so much satisfaction and a sense of completion. So when I find myself with some precious time, I start 5 things instead of one and then run myself ragged at trying to finish them all, what a chaotic way of being. Totally counter-productive. I know I can do so much more and I need to feel the flow, yet somehow the flow is lost, buried de...

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