Ever thought of changing your focus from managing time to managing energy? Here’s the good news if you dare to go there. Forget time, it’s all about energy! In our increasingly fast-paced and pressured lives, we crave more time and energy, making them both among the most in-demand commodities of the 21st century. We are all familiar with the clever concepts of buying time; but can we actually buy energy? The answer is, of course, ‘no’ though we do note society’s attempts in the purchasing of energy drinks, energy bars, or our embracing of the notion to increase energy through meditation, yoga or exercise. However, this is clearly not sustaining enough, as most people are still craving energy despite these hard-earned efforts to increase it. Why is this so? If we understand that time is outside of ourselves and energy is within us all, we begin to understand that energy is actually our currency for living and being. After all, without energy we can’t perform or do anything really, ev...

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It is important to understand that there are seasons in our life and that each of these seasons are helpful to us. Winter Winter is the season where we experience challenges and difficulties in our life. It can feel like a cold and lonely time. Our life may appear bleak. We may be dealing with storms in our life which creates fear and anxiety for us. However, we need periods of winter in our lives. These winter times provide us with important learning and understanding. It is through the challenges and difficulties in life that we learn our most valuable lessons. Winter also helps us to appreciate and be grateful for what we have. Without periods of winter in our lives we can take for granted all of the goodness that we experience. Autumn Autumn is the season of our life where change occurs and we need to let go of the old. During this period of our life we recognise and feel the need for change in our lives. In order for us to change we need to let go of things like the leaves fa...

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You wonder sometimes if we had ‘user manuals’ when we were born that things would turn out different, and there would be more ‘common sense’ in the world. Just reading the paper I was completed shocked to read about a mother  who left her son in the car whilst it was scorching hot outside. The mother claims that ‘she forgot he was in the car’ as she got carried away doing the Christmas shopping! I know I shouldn’t judge however this behaviour is so wrong, how can you forget your own child whilst you do the shopping? Thank goodness a passerby heard the screams and broke a window and got him out. How hysterical would that little toddler be? And the psychological damage created in that traumatic event, it could really impact him. If we had user manuals the mother would know better. It would be stated, that under no circumstances to leave children alone in the car. Yet I guess we are all so different and follow different sets of values and beliefs that to create a user manual for al...

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A client of mine has a new saying ‘I love the world’ as she achieved a major goal in her life and all was finally going her way. What a great attitude to have. When you vibrate from this space only good things happen, how true is that? If you achieve what you set out to do then it is natural to feel good and for some people like my client they just want to hug and love everybody! They want to share their happiness with anybody who will listen and shout it from the roof tops! Success is sweet that it true especially if you have gone through so much to finally get there the journey does test you in ways you never thought possible. Yet you persisted and you overcame each obstacle even to the point of getting into more financial debt as a result because you knew it was all worth it and the result would change everything. How I can relate to you, sometimes you wonder in your midst of madness determination you question if this is the right way? This sheer madness takes you in directions th...

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I was reminded once again how important it is to be dedicated to your health, when health fails us we are reminded how delicate we can be. During these times we also realise that taking our health for granted is not going to help us in the long term. In fact if we neglect any part of our lives we most likely pay with pain until we can get it sorted and back into a positive balance.   As my yoga teacher said recently “mastery of anything takes time and dedication" how true is that? All the great discoveries of our time followed this thinking, Thomas Edison was a master at perseverance and dedication, and he kept going until he reached his goal of producing a practical light blub which lasted for 40 hours.   So mastery is the journey so you need to keep at it until you get really good at it, just see sports-people who keep practising day in day out, or musicians who just keep playing their instrument so they can achieve self mastery. There is no quick fix; just do the tim...

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This is the time to reflect and to take stock of what we have in our lives. Many people simply just go shopping and spend money on gifts to show love. Remember the love languages? Well some people show love through gifts and others require words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch and quality time. If gifts hit your button then this time of the year is perfect for you and you will feel loved all over. Just remember your loved ones may need one of the other love languages to feel loved and wanted so remember that nothing beats quality time with someone you really care for. Sharing is part of this time of the year too, celebrating your successes and milestones. Acknowledge this and know that you are attracting more good things into your life. On a personal level, 2009 has been a wonderful year, one of my best, what can I say it marked the year of being a parent and well I am still on a high. Professionally I can be doing more, I guess that is my expectation, yet being a car...

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Attitude is everything, if you have a crappy attitude you: • Age quicker • Suffer from stress internally and externally • Attract disaster upon disaster • Have failed relationships because you are so crappy no one will tolerate you • Pay double for things because people don’t offer any discounts (most likely they increase their prices!) • You are always running late because you are busy complaining about the bad service • You rarely go out and thus have very few friends • You hate Christmas and your birthday because people who are supposed to love you forget • Life is SO HARD • Other people are luckier than you • You have had a tough life and you see no way out Just imagine living like this? Today I met someone with these characteristics he was our bus driver on the way home. We were in the city and it was a busy bus route to jump on especially if you have a pram, the driver was angry and bitter, a crappy attitude alrig...

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Whilst at the grocery checkout I overheard a lady saying on the mobile “why do I keep doing this? And ‘never again will I act this way with men?” I empathized with her as a few years ago I was that woman (well perhaps not on the mobile spilling out my private life!) . I too had created patterns around my ‘future partners’ and kept repeating those patterns until I sorted out my own needs. Then I finally broke my non-serving ways. We all have patterns of behaviors and some are conscious and some are not, we just do and often we are driven emotionally to do something without really realizing the consequences or impact on our future decisions. Like taking a main highway we have this road all mapped out in our minds and body so it just happens.. Until we say ‘never again’. Once we recognize this we are on the road to awareness and change and like any habit, we need to replace it with something else, more productive and constructive. That is the key, if you change this habit and this too d...

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Today I felt a bit lost and lonely, we had family and friends around us since mid October and yesterday we all headed off to the airport to bid them farewell. My in-laws had become so integrated into our routines that I felt vacant and sad all day, the low lying clouds adding to this mood. Strange you get so used to having people around, interacting, sharing stories and having their energy fill your home. We all enjoyed their company especially their 11 month grand-daughter she was so happy to play, get taken out for walks, and to hang out with her oma and opa. I enjoyed the break, to do other duties and to write uninterrupted, it was bliss. Having love and connection fills your heart and makes you realize that it is not just about you, you are part of a tribe that share common interests and take care of children together. There is something to be said about sharing the gearing of children, having the extended family close by and having conversations that matter. I know in my cultur...

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Last night a friend was telling me about her discussion with her boss, it went something like this: I know you are intelligent And you know I am intelligent So let’s just be real and tell it how it is.. And they discussed issues pertinent to her team and the stresses that they were all working under. It was an honest open discourse and she felt good about just laying it on the table and he felt enlighten about what was going on. Being real is not as difficult as it first appears you just need to be prepared to be honest and be ready for the other person to be as honest in return. I remember many years ago I had this type of talk with an ex boyfriend and he told me all the things he didn’t like about me including my physical features! I guess I wasn’t looking for this type of honesty, but I invited it so I should have been more prepared. When you are authentic you have no hidden agenda as you speak your truth, sometimes this can cause conflict as you need to be a little bit more s...

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